Author barefoot99 Posted April 16, 2014 Author Posted April 16, 2014 The fact that you are holding out hope even though he blocked you makes me think your radar is a bit off in this situation. People don't just block randomly. I have to say, with no offense meant, that this sounds pretty delusional. I really don't see any hope here. At best, you seem to be a backup plan for hooking up. I'm sorry, I just don't see it from what you've written, and you are definitely trying to create that narrative. I know this comes off as harsh, but people don't just block people for whatever reason, especially men on Facebook. It's either out of hurt or annoyance, and I'm thinking it's way more of the latter than the former. We never hooked up.. we never had sex. I wasn't ready to take our relationship there..
Simon Phoenix Posted April 16, 2014 Posted April 16, 2014 We never hooked up.. we never had sex. I wasn't ready to take our relationship there.. Well, there's another reason he might be done with it as well. Honestly, you need to listen to your friends on this one.
KaliLove Posted April 16, 2014 Posted April 16, 2014 My gut tells me he still has feelings for me and not just because he told me, I just 'know' if that makes sense.. my gut tells me he wants to be with me but can't (as I said, his life is fairly complicated), and that for whatever personal reasons he blocked me, he's also blocked me/kept me blocked because he thinks it's the right thing to do by me as he can't give me what I want. Yes that should deter me and I should just put him past me and work on myself and hope to meet someone else some day that can and will give me what I need... but I hate how it's just all on his terms, he calls the shots and I just sit back and vomit emotions on the ride that he conveniently doesn't get to see/acknowledge. I know he could be pulling a fade out thing, and if that's what this turns out to be then I imagine I will accept that he was not the right one for me and that'd be ok. Another possible outcome is that he just needs thinking time (i.e. 'just leave me alone for a bit' ?). I won't lie and say that I'm not hoping for outcome 2, but being forced to acknowledge the first possibility has forced me to start the moving on process too.. it's really weird because you start moving on to get you through the pain and there are moments you genuinely feel like you are detaching, but also still enough feeling/hope in you that you still wish they'll contact you.. but the combination of the two possibilities don't agree with each other at all. If I fully move on and he contacts me cos he just needed time to think, it'll be too late.. I guess with all the feelings for him that I hold now, I don't like the thought of that, but hey. Complicated or not, when a guy wants to be with you, he makes it work. He will move heaven and earth to make it work. This guy isn't doing that. In fact, he's doing the opposite of that. Sorry hon, but I have to agree with everyone else. I don't think there's a chance. I also still think he's met someone else who lives closer.
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