toungeofcolicab Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 I dated my ex girlfriend for 5 years and we broke up about a month ago. We still talk pretty frequently and i have really struggled with it all. Anyway, my father is currently very ill in the hospital, and has been basically diagnosed with a 'paralyzed stomach'. He won't have much longer to live. She has texted me and said if i want to see her, she can be there to comfort me for hugs and things like that and just someone to talk to. Is there anything there? Or is she just trying to be a friend of sorts
Gaeta Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 I am very sorry for your dad. She cares and wants to be there for you. She probably also knows your dad and is very affected by the news. Even if the relationship is over it doesn't mean she stopped caring especially you spent 5 years together. A couple of months ago an ex-boyfriend called me when his dad passed. I welcomed him with open arms he knew it didn't mean I wanted him back. I knew he just wanted my comfort, when we were dating he always told me he found a lot of comfort in me. That being said, if your separation is too painful and having her there would mean more pain than comfort just say thank you but no thanks 2
Trapito Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 I'm very sorry for you. I presume she ended the relationship? In that case, I think she is just being friendly. Hang in there! (( hugs))
MidwestUSA Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 I'm so sorry about your dad. However, she's all over the place. Crazy, if I recall. She may try to use this to get back with you. Be very careful; don't let hugs turn into more. Try to remember the things she did. It really would be safer if you remained no contact. You don't need one more thing messing with your head if your dad is dying. Again, I'm sorry.
Armegoggon Posted April 16, 2014 Posted April 16, 2014 (edited) I'm sorry about your dad. As for the ex girlfriend case, you can try to talk to her as friends but just avoid dating her unless you don't mind getting back into this relationship. Just watch out for traps like she going to gradually drag you back. Edited April 16, 2014 by Armegoggon
Omei Posted April 16, 2014 Posted April 16, 2014 I think letting her comfort you is going to be bad for your healing of the end of your relationship it will feel like you're together when you are not and build up false hopes for yourself and maybe end up in more hurt later. You have to learn to deal with tragedy without her, take comfort with your family and friends instead. Sorry about your father
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