LoveinNEB Posted February 2, 2005 Posted February 2, 2005 Okay here's the deal. I'm crazy about this girl in one of my classes. So far we've hit it off pretty good. But now i'm in a situation and i need your input. I'm pretty sure the girl is interested in me. We always walk together after class, and today i was going a completely different way than her, but she said "ah well, i'll walk with you anyway"... so since she went out of her way, i decided to go for it and ask her if she'd like to have lunch. Well, she told me she had a paper to write and that she was going to go to work right after. I'm pretty sure this wasn't an excuse to blow me off because she isn't the type to do that. I know she isn't dating anyone....but now i'm stuck. I've already asked her to lunch once and she shot me down.... if i asked her again wouldn't that seem kind of annoying or perhaps even creep her out if i'm hounding her like that? I hate the beginning workings of this type of stuff and if i had it to do over again i would have told her that anytime she wasn't working that she should let me know and we should get together.... oh well. Any suggestions? Should i ask again or hold off and let her make the moves???
Midwest guy Posted February 2, 2005 Posted February 2, 2005 Might want to read my thread. There was a girl I was interested in and I became too pushy according to her and turned her off. I dunno. I say use the "crashing the net" method like they do in hockey when you need to score and throw everything you can at it.
bluechocolate Posted February 2, 2005 Posted February 2, 2005 If she didn't suggest an alternative, ie. "I'm really busy today but how 'bout tomorrow/next Monday..." (which btw, I think she would have done is she was seriously interested in you) or something like that, I would hold off and let her make the moves. if i had it to do over again i would have told her that anytime she wasn't working that she should let me know and we should get together.... oh well. live & learn....
Scarlett_girl Posted February 2, 2005 Posted February 2, 2005 i disagree with bluechocolate..there is a guy im very much into and he's asked me to coffe and lunch more times than I can count...and even though I really like him..I dont alway say yes..sometimes because i'm busy othertimes because I dont want him to think I am tooooo interested in him cuz I dont want to get into a relationship right now and want to keep things casual with him for now...I would say next time after class..after you start talking to her ask her if she wants to grab a cup of coffee..if she says no again..then i'd say move on..in my case...I never say no twice cuz then he'll think i'm not into him...good luck!
Author LoveinNEB Posted February 3, 2005 Author Posted February 3, 2005 Hmm...interesting replies so far. Here's a question for you scarlet... if you ARE into the guy and he never asked you again, would you take the initiative and ask him? I mean, why let a good thing get away right? I'm definitely into this girl and i am not above making an idiot out of myself for her... BUT.... it would be interesting to see what she does. I forgot to tell you guys that while we were walking today someone was passing out flyers to a local band here and the person gave them both to us... Dana (the girl) says jokingly, "see... we can go to this together".... just out of the blue. I'm probably reading way too much into all of this, but at the same time this is a very outgoing girl and is not shy AT ALL. Perhaps if i hold back she will ask me.... thanks for the advice so far.
Stylin22 Posted February 3, 2005 Posted February 3, 2005 before you ask her out again, do this....When you leave your class, turn to her and say, "I was thinking of you last night and wanted to return the favor, let me walk you to (insert destination here)." EVEN IF YOU ARE LATE TO SOMETHING. Walk her there and ask her some about herself on the way. THEN, when she says thanks, throw in, "hey I'm up for a nice talk anytime, just let me know when you are free..." Smile and be on your way.... That way you have shown interest, care, and you have tossed that little ball back over into her court....
Midwest guy Posted February 3, 2005 Posted February 3, 2005 Originally posted by Stylin22 before you ask her out again, do this....When you leave your class, turn to her and say, "I was thinking of you last night and wanted to return the favor, let me walk you to (insert destination here)." EVEN IF YOU ARE LATE TO SOMETHING. Walk her there and ask her some about herself on the way. THEN, when she says thanks, throw in, "hey I'm up for a nice talk anytime, just let me know when you are free..." Smile and be on your way.... That way you have shown interest, care, and you have tossed that little ball back over into her court.... Wow!! Next time I call Lindsay should I tell her I was thinking about her the other night?
Stylin22 Posted February 3, 2005 Posted February 3, 2005 Dude, I just read the post before mine, I didn't see it...Ask her!!!! Seriously, I'm one of those hit me over the head with a bat so that I can tell you are interested types....Where is the bat?!
Stylin22 Posted February 3, 2005 Posted February 3, 2005 Midwest, your situation is different. This girl may think you are stalking her...Time pal...wait a bit and let that fire burn out a bit.
Midwest guy Posted February 3, 2005 Posted February 3, 2005 Originally posted by Stylin22 Midwest, your situation is different. This girl may think you are stalking her...Time pal...wait a bit and let that fire burn out a bit. Time is painful though. Plus hormones are a factor too you know. My heart hurts!
Author LoveinNEB Posted February 3, 2005 Author Posted February 3, 2005 Can you not try and hijack my thread midwestguy? lol.... j/k
alphamale Posted February 3, 2005 Posted February 3, 2005 Originally posted by LoveinNEB so since she went out of her way, i decided to go for it and ask her if she'd like to have lunch. Well, she told me she had a paper to write and that she was going to go to work right after. Any suggestions? Should i ask again or hold off and let her make the moves??? Sorry LOVEINNEB but this was a blow-off. Had she been into you in "that way" (romantically) she would have NEVER, and I repeat NEVER, said what she did. Do you understand this? Memorize it! Had she responded with: "Well I have a paper to write and then have to go to work but I can have lunch with you FRiday" then it would be a different story. You are her friend. Period. Look elsewhere for a romantic inteerst.
Midwest guy Posted February 3, 2005 Posted February 3, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale Sorry LOVEINNEB but this was a blow-off. Had she been into you in "that way" (romantically) she would have NEVER, and I repeat NEVER, said what she did. Do you understand this? Memorize it! Had she responded with: "Well I have a paper to write and then have to go to work but I can have lunch with you FRiday" then it would be a different story. You are her friend. Period. Look elsewhere for a romantic inteerst. That sounds similar to the blowoffs Lin gives me.
JoL Posted February 3, 2005 Posted February 3, 2005 I think it's time for us to all read this exert from "He's just not that into you.." but reversed..for boys. http://www.usatoday.com/life/books/excerpts/2004-09-08-hes-just_x.htm ...read it midwest guy..please. LoveinNEB, I would try one more time, ask her to coffee, casually mention hanging out sometime. Ask her if she wants to grab lunch or something..if she blows you off again, i would say "ok, well whenever youre free, let me know". If she doesnt bring it up again...leave it, she may just not be that into you.
Midwest guy Posted February 3, 2005 Posted February 3, 2005 Originally posted by JoL I think it's time for us to all read this exert from "He's just not that into you.." but reversed..for boys. http://www.usatoday.com/life/books/excerpts/2004-09-08-hes-just_x.htm ...read it midwest guy..please. LoveinNEB, I would try one more time, ask her to coffee, casually mention hanging out sometime. Ask her if she wants to grab lunch or something..if she blows you off again, i would say "ok, well whenever youre free, let me know". If she doesnt bring it up again...leave it, she may just not be that into you. I'll read the article when I get time. Anyways my advice go all out to get her. Got nothing to lose.
Scarlett_girl Posted February 3, 2005 Posted February 3, 2005 alphamale..sorry i dont agree!!! like I said before..i've said no to a boy I like BUT NEVER twice in a row..ask her again and then you'll know!
daboyz Posted February 4, 2005 Posted February 4, 2005 LOVEinNEB : I tend to analyze everything a girl does when u first start the dating process. U asked her out and she was busy. Yes she could of said Im busy but how about this day. Or maybe she doesnt want to seem desperate, alot of girls think this way. She did however say something about u guys going to a concert or something right ? That right there my friend is all u need to know !! Cause if she had no intention of ever going out with u then she wouldnt of made a comment like that !!! From my point of view, she is interested in you and wants u to probably ask her out again. Go ahead and ask her, if she makes another excuse then back off and let her come to u about going out. As for this Midwest character : He hijacks everyone's threads !!! He did it to mine.....hes going down a dangerous road ...he will probably be in jail in a few days so dont worry about him !!! If u read this Midwest Guy ...stop posting in other peoples threads about ur problem !!!! Comment on the question from the person who started the thread and try to help them out !!! If we care about YOU and Lindsay then we will comment in ur thread !!! STOP !!!!
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