fishman3226 Posted February 2, 2005 Posted February 2, 2005 I am wondering if i should be worried..... My GF who i have been seeing for nearly a year and is pregnant with my child (3 months) and I just moved in together. The relationship was really good and intense until a couple of things happened - one, an ex girlfriend in August came and basically said that if i dont get back with her she would tell my GF I was cheating on her. I had to finalise that (and I basically put my current relationship on hold until it was sorted. Second an ex of my GF came along - as he has regularly over the past ten years - and I objected. We got into some serious arguments about it. Before all of this we were intense, my GF was really open and affectionate. Now, I am lucky to get an unsoliicited hug let alone sex. We havent had sex now for nearly two months which adds to my frustration. I feel like i am an imposition and a bit unworthy. I wonder if she werent pregnant would i be with her. Now i know she is stressed and hormonal - she is pregnant and we just moved but still. I feel in honesty neglected and in the way. I am kind of feeling like it is a matter of time before she says 'goodbye' for good. I do have concerns about relationships and i do feel inscure about us due to this. I am thinking the best thing i could do is not show any affection to her so as to not not have it recipricated and also make her think about things. In essence look after me first. I love this woman but i am beginning to doubt that she truly loves me. I would just like her to just show me that she does - i dont know how but somehow make her feelings known. She has said in the past that I am always trying to validate her feelings, like i dont believe them - i dont think i do anymore. i have learnt the hard way that love is shown and not just said. I dont know what to think...
Merin Posted February 2, 2005 Posted February 2, 2005 Well I can only point out what to me is obvious.. She is pregnant.. and while I know you've said you understand that, I don't know that you really do. There is a lot of things going on in her body right now.. emotional changes, physical changes.. she is finishing her first trimester and going into the second. The changes that can and do go on include but are not limited to: Breast soreness/tenderness Sickness Extremely tired/fatigue Headaches Itchy skin from stretching Cramping Couple this with stress from previous issues in the relationship that may or may not have found complete resolution and moving into together with the adjustment of getting used to that.. yeah.. stress. This doesn't "excuse" her from showing some affection or concern for you.. but from what you've said it seems to me that you're a little to willing to scrap the whole thing without putting in a lot of effort to find solutions. Best of luck
Author fishman3226 Posted February 3, 2005 Author Posted February 3, 2005 I know the whole 'prgnancy' thing - my ex wife and I had two kids. We had a talk about it yesterday - she brought it up - and one thing she is stressed about is not showing me enough attention. I aint gonna walk away from it but something like this I woud nto put up with forever..... Hopefully within a few months it willl settl down... BTW Merin, nice pic!!
Merin Posted February 3, 2005 Posted February 3, 2005 Originally posted by fishman3226 I know the whole 'prgnancy' thing - my ex wife and I had two kids. We had a talk about it yesterday - she brought it up - and one thing she is stressed about is not showing me enough attention. I aint gonna walk away from it but something like this I woud nto put up with forever..... Hopefully within a few months it willl settl down... BTW Merin, nice pic!! Well 2 kids uh? LOL so yeah.. pregnancy is hard. Hopefully the talk will help and she at least recognizes there is some issues.. yeah I wouldn't be down for putting up with things being that way forever.. but again with pregnancy, no two are alike so maybe just some time will be good. Thank you for the compliment
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