rhimix Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 I posted a thread immediately after my boyfriend broke up with me. It has been a few days, and I have accepted that the relationship is over for good. In fact, I sort of feel a lot better. I think that it's a good thing. I am doing no contact and I wound up telling my ex that I do not want him contacting me, which I thought was a mistake at first but I now think is a good thing. I think he will respect it and not try to contact me, which is for the best because I know if he tries to apologize I might give in and settle for being "friends". However, I still have some gifts that my ex gave me; a mug and painting he did himself with a poem on the back. Right after the break up, I put them both in a box. But I live in a small apartment, so there's no real place for me to "hide" the box. I am totally fine most of the time, until I walk past the box and I remember the gifts. I still hold a lot of anger towards him so I honestly want to destroy them both, or at least throw them out. But I don't know if that will make me feel better. My ex didn't have a lot of money, so him buying me anything, even if it was something small (the mug) was a big deal. And I know he spent a long time on the painting/poem. I would feel bad for destroying them, but I can't have them in my apartment anymore. At all. I am considering mailing them back to him. What should I do??
d0nnivain Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 They were gifts. They became yours immediately upon receipt. You are not obligated to give them back. You can keep them. You can throw them out. I would do whatever will cause you the least amount of effort. 1
Arieswoman Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 Should I return gifts to my ex? I threw mine at him Yours are yours, you can do what you want with them.
jphcbpa Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 I threw some out, gave some away Get them out of your sight regardless. That goes for everything associated with you ex. 1
faithfully Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 Bin them hun, the past is the past. I sure did!!! Glad you have excepted the break up. Now time to start a new chapter in your life. Gud Luck
elseaacych Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 Pack 'em in a box, give them to a friend. Tell her that you can't have them in sight right now, and that if in ten years, you haven't come back for them, she can throw them away. That way it's no longer on you!
Cessius Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 When my ex and I broke up that was one of the first things we both offered was to return the jewelry. The stuffed animals and stuff I threw away but she had bought me a nice watch and her diamond earrings, necklace and ring all cost a lot. Depends on your financial case, but either give them back, throw them away or keep them for future store credit (<- Option I chose). They will only really set you back though. I still wear the watch after 3 weeks from the BU and it doesn't remind me of her but whenever I open the cabinet and see the ring I gave her, it tears me apart. However I live in a house so I just put it in a room I never use. In a small apartment I would say either give them to a trustworthy friend and have them keep it, or throw it away. There is no reason to make yourself suffer more than you have to.
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