Amelie1980 Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 What on Earth is up with this?I met a guy online back in November last year. He was lovely.*We were very well suited personality wise, good chemistry, similar humour, we kissed on dates and it was lovely. he contacted me constantly. texting and emailing and messaging me several times a day. he flirted with me, told me he really liked me. If felt right to kiss me etc. he added me on Facebook too. I never had to prompt him to contact me. the only thing was he was worried about the distance between us. not that far but not round the corner.*He then pulled it out of nowhere that he didn't want to continue. But the strange part is he said he still really likes me. Likes being in contact with me. doesn't want to lose touch. Can we be friends he says. Stay in touch as we get on so well. He also revealled he was dumped horribly by his on / off gf in July before we met. He thought he was ok but isn't ok. He is scared to get involved. Cannot explain why his feelings changed but he is fickle. He has also had some changes at work and he's not happy where he is.*Ok fine. I was disappointed but ok. We didnt date long and didn't sleep together.*I just decided to leave it alone and move on. Only he texted 5 days later asking how I was etc. I took my time but replied. He texted all over Christmas and new year.*So the situation was that he would text now and again: usually every 10 days. I would reply. Sometimes I would initiate but not often. I accepted we were just casual friends / acquaintances.*He could see from Facebook I was traveling and living my life.* He randomly unfriended me on Facebook a week ago. I asked if I had done something to upset him.He said he was getting bothered by the frequency of contact and that it's greater than that between him and his close friends. It worried him....! I reminded him he wanted to be friends and he stayed in touch. I also told him not to flatter himself. He backed off and said just conclude here. So I thought the hell with it and blocked him on Facebook.*But seriously. ...what the hell?! Did I miss something or did I just meet some manipulative idiot?Was I supposed to chase him when he dealt the friends card or what?
PegNosePete Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 He sounds like a weirdo. What are you gaining form this friendship? It doesn't sound like much. I would just cut him off.
Art_Critic Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 IMO, he was using you to fill a void, someone to keep him company while he courted or tried to find another girl. The defriending on FB was entirely because he friended the girl he is trying to get naked with or he is already seeing someone and at that point he has no use to have his void filled by you.. Sorry.. it sucks but it seems he didn't care about being friends or lovers with you. 1
Author Amelie1980 Posted April 15, 2014 Author Posted April 15, 2014 I have no idea but he wanted the friendship and then threw it on my face for being too friendly.
Author Amelie1980 Posted April 15, 2014 Author Posted April 15, 2014 Yeah but he had over 400 friends on Facebook. I never would have noticed another woman. People normally don't communicate with their gf openly on fb...normally text or private message.
angel.eyes Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 You dated him for a short time. You weren't long-term friends. I wouldn't worry about his behavior. It's not worth your energy or time. Let it go.
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