brokenhearted9 Posted February 2, 2005 Posted February 2, 2005 Hi everyone, I have been dating my boyfriend for 9 monnths and we've had our shares of ups and downs. We've broken up so many times but I have always managed to get him back. I am a highly insecure person and at times I get clingy becuase I always thought the worst of him and some of it came to be true. He is a huge perve and would go online and flirt with women but this was usually in the time periods where we were " broken up". I caught him a coupleof times and he said he was just having fun and that's it. Since then I don't trust him and am always afriad he's going to cheat so I do a pre-emptive thing and always talk about men who have asked me out and I befriend them trying to make my boyfriend jeolous. It's taken a toll on the both of us and we always get into fights. At this momment I believe that if I backed off to give him space that he might cheat on me and I would never know or he couldmiss me so much he would realize what he has. I know I look like a weak person because I want to be with him all the time. I was thinking about backing off and kind of do the no contact thing anymore. Perhaps play hard to get in order so that he will love amd miss me again and only remember the good with us. Do you guys think that this will work or is it too much game playing. someone told me to be really sweet to him when he does contact me but not to contact him myself. To stay busy and that will put me in a good light? do you think that will work or will it just give him an easy way out and I won't have time to make it up to him and be a better girlfriend who isn't so clingy . Thanks
sundrop Posted February 2, 2005 Posted February 2, 2005 Like a friend told me during my current break up period with my boyfriend..... You need to take time out and think about what it is you want most out of this relationship and think about if he is giving you what you need. Is he giving you what you deserve? The attention you need? The security you need? If not then there is somebody out there who will, but you are not going to find them hanging out there with this guy. Take this time for yourself and do some soul searching (like I am having to do). I truly believe hat the person you are meant to be with will give you the security you need and attention you deserve.
Desperatelynluv Posted February 21, 2005 Posted February 21, 2005 I think that how you go about winning your boyfriends affection is all wrong because i am in love with this gut at my school and he does not even want to speak to me or look at me i think that you should, if you love him, stop talking about others men in front of him because that is the biggest turn off to a man. Also, tell him that you love and care about him because he is doing the things that he does because he obviously does not know that he has love at home. Also, listen to what he has to say so that he knows that he has your support. Please do not be like me, alone and bitter because you were too scared or too insecure to tell him how much you love and need him. Love true love only comes once so do not mess it up because when you are in love with someone and it is real try your best to keep them in your heart and in your hands.
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