lovers Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 So im 22 grad from a good college with a biopsychology degree and moved back home and worked in electronics as a salesman and then now got a patient service representative job at a hospital. I want to work in healthcare but don't know which job exactly, I am leaning towards dentistry, but my gpa isn't that competitive enough yet, around 3.0-3.1 gpa. Its been about 6 months now since I graduated, and have been living at home and saving up money, building my resume, gonna start shadowing a dentist or positions in healthcare that might interests me and figuring out what I want to do. I will probably have to do a short masters program and do well if I decide I want to go to dental school. I am taking time off to just get some money, save and pay off school loans that have high interests (I have one loan that accumulates so need to pay that off quick). My dad has always been adamant that I go back to school and was upset that I got my patient service rep job at a hospital, he says Im wasting my time and I should go back to school. My dad never payed for my college education, but he does put a roof over my head, food, car insurance, and phone bills. So my dad just talked to me recently and pretty much gave me an ultimatum if I don't go back to school I am going to get kicked out of the house... I told him to just give me some more time to figure it out and once I find out what I want to do I will go for it, but my dad just left with go back to school or get kicked out. I kinda don't know what to do, I mean if I go back to school right now I don't have much money and it will be all loans and I would have to do really well get good grades, then I would have a good shot at professional school. Its a bit risky and I feel rushed into finding a profession, I am only 22. I feel like my dad just wants me to find a good job regardless if I am happy with it or not so I can support myself, also by adding some tough love. What advice can you guys give me? Need help!!!
Els Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 If your dad is so insistent on you going back to school, he should be paying your tuition fees. If you are funding your own education then you should do whatever you see fit. Don't go back to school if you're not sure, just to please him. Doesn't your job enable you to live on your own? 1
topaMAXX Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 If you are living under your dad's roof, you live by his rules. He should be even more strict with you, imo. You're 22, a grown-up. It's not like you're 15.
Author lovers Posted April 15, 2014 Author Posted April 15, 2014 yeah, I could live on my own but thats like extra expenses going towards housing which would suck, it would be hard to save up money. I get that its his house his rules, but I feel like hes rushing me towards going back to school just cause. I mean there has to be a plan, like ive only been out of school 6 months, if I decide I want to do dental school then I will go for it. But my dads pushing me now...
d0nnivain Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 Do the math on paper -- show your dad the long term costs of student loans & how long it will take to pay them back. Then show your dad the plan to avoid those charges & how working now will help reduce your debt later. Once he sees a plan, he may relent. 6
serial muse Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 Do the math on paper -- show your dad the long term costs of student loans & how long it will take to pay them back. Then show your dad the plan to avoid those charges & how working now will help reduce your debt later. Once he sees a plan, he may relent. This is a good idea - work out the numbers, including paying off loans, getting the master's degree (if necessary), and when that would make you prepared for dental school in terms of knowledge and money, and present it all to him as a solid plan. He may be impatient with a vague "I want to figure out what I want to do" but if you show him you've thought it all through that's a different story. 1
BHsigh Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 Do the math on paper -- show your dad the long term costs of student loans & how long it will take to pay them back. Then show your dad the plan to avoid those charges & how working now will help reduce your debt later. Once he sees a plan, he may relent. ^^^ Parents love it when they see their children thinking and planning.
veritas lux mea Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 Where I live most parents do not pay for higher education so my mindset may be different but I think you should write out a plan as suggested and perhaps talk to him about paying rent. Less then being on your own but at least something. And pay for your own car. It seems like you are being a freeloader and your dad wants you to grow up.
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