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I'm female. He's a male. He called me every night last week and we talked for several hours each time. Respectful chats and honest. He says he wants to know everything about me. Today, he says he is not in a good frame of mind to communicate. Something about needing to get over himself and out from under some condemnation (had to do with someone other than me). WTF? This sounds like a bunch of BS to me. Why do men do this? Get all interested and then back off? I did not pressure him, call him, do anything weird or needy. I don't get it.

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I did not pressure him, call him, do anything weird or needy. I don't get it.

 

That's your opinion, but maybe not his. We cannot give you advice unless you give more detail. Otherwise, it just sounds like a rant.

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This is a list for you to follow:

 

1) Back off of him

 

2) You sound 'needy', as you wanted his time, got reject, got upset

 

3) He gave you a time frame of one 24 hour Earth day of not communicating

 

4) Let him contact you if he ever does again

 

I let girls down by cutting communication because I believe this is a more gentle way of putting down an unstable, emotional woman.

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Too much, too fast, too soon?

 

How long did you know him?

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Maybe he just feels burned out. I know I might.

 

What I would do is to give him space. The worst thing you can do is to try and regain his interest by trying even harder because that will push him away. Just play it cool and take it from there.

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If you haven't met, he looks worse than his photos.

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