Does somewhat physical attraction cut it for you if you like them as a person?

[R3d]

Say there's a person that you're only slightly attracted to physically, but love them as a person. Would that cut it for you?

 

For me, personally, yes. All I need is some physical attraction because for me, what's more important is if she makes me feel good and I like her as a person. I don't need a stunning model.

 

State your age and sex (me: I am a 16-year old male).

[LustAppeal]

Me personally I need physical attraction and I think it's wrong to belittle people like me who go for it. Yes I need a STRONG emotional connection, but I want someone who takes care of there body, I take pride in keeping myself active and need a girl that can keep up. So for me physical attraction comes from physical fitness.

Saying that I do not believe what so ever that covering your face with makeup, tanning intensely, or dieting yourself like most modern models is attractive.

What I find attractive when it comes it physical appearance:

#1-A cute face that only needs a little makeup to bring out the eyes or shine up the lips.

2-I'm a curves guy and the hips don't lie. Taking care of your fitness is shown through curves, not boobs or butt. And the whole thigh gap thing... It's been proven in sooo many cases that this is caused by improper dieting.

3-lower back; I LOVEEEE wrapping one arm almost completely around my girl and pulling her in tight leaving the other hand for hair, cheek, back of the neck...

4-Hair, IDK why but I love the whole library messy ponytail.

 

OK now emotional/personality wise defiantly over-rules physical appearance, but both are highly demanding with my standards.

 

I tell my girlfriend constantly "I wish you could see yourself the way I see you." Because everyone has faults appearance wise, and the way I look at her... Gahhhhh she could have huge zit in the middle of her forehead and I wouldn't even notice.

 

Love defiantly looks past physical faults. But as human beings we've been trained to judge a book by its cover.

[shet]

Yes it does cut it. In fact it's the majority of my attraction. Women I found physically uninspiring when we met, I will warm to strongly if they warm to me. It would take a truly unfortunately ugly woman to disinterest me if she was pleasant and inclusive toward me. I give no ****s about them being hot. It's not a beauty contest. If anything it's a personality contest.

 

In fact I tend now to go the other way. Hard bodied gym queens, full face o' makeup, high heels and tight clothes, these things put me off tremendously because they scream "vain". And even naturally very pretty women I'm going to pretty much avoid, because just as with handsome dickheaded men, their looks tend to have earned them certain privileges and passes in life that have turned them into... not my kind of people. I want women with the same battle scars as myself.

[SpiralOut]

No it doesn't cut it for me. I used to ignore looks all the time in favour of personality. It gave me a relationship with someone I loved as a friend but felt no chemistry with. It wasn't fair to either of us.

[InnocentMan]

If you think you can do better, there's no point settling. Average looking women are fine if you're having a dry spell, but I wouldn't want to live with one forever. The initial novelty of their personality will soon wear off, and you'll be left committed to an unattractive person.

 

The upside of being with an unattractive person, is she will probably never have an affair, or make you jealous by flirting. They also usually make great sandwiches. Not a common skill these days.

[LustAppeal]

If you think you can do better, there's no point settling. Average looking women are fine if you're having a dry spell, but I wouldn't want to live with one forever. The initial novelty of their personality will soon wear off, and you'll be left committed to an unattractive person.

 

Although I semi agree, i'd still be careful with that... I know I could do better, its just a fact that if I got dumped right this second I would be able to find someone better. But I don't think like that because if I did I would be single the rest of my life only setting with someone I could only dream about...

[kodakgirl]

I don't feel I can say yes or no because "attraction" for me is a tangle of physical, emotional, and intellectual. They interplay. Attraction in one of these areas increases attraction in the others. If I feel attracted on an emotional and/or intellectual level it's likely he will seem pretty darn physically attractive to me as well, whatever his objective looks. I just wouldn't only feel slightly physically attracted to someone whose personality attracted me. That's different from someone whose personality I just really really like; attraction is something more to me even without anything physical involved.

[Daisy2013]

For me, I found I became sexually attracted to someone after I grew to love him. There was nobody that had ever been more attractive to me than him and the chemistry was amazing.

[Frank2thepoint]

Say there's a person that you're only slightly attracted to physically, but love them as a person. Would that cut it for you?

 

Yep, that would cut for it me. I've been attracted to women that weren't objectively/physically gorgeous or really pretty, just average or above average, but with their personality, intellect, and the emotional bond they were each beautiful to me. For me the quality of the person as a whole attracts me.