VAD1605 Posted April 14, 2014 Posted April 14, 2014 Was in a relationship with a girl whom I loved dearly. She was 20 im 24. I knew what I was getting into when I starting dating her when she was 18. Long story short is she called and broke up with me over the phone out of the blue. My heart is broken, self esteem absolutely gone. I treated her like an angel, sent her flowers, took her out to dinner all the time, never ever made her pay a dime anywhere, made her breakfast in bed at least 3 times a week. Vacationed with her all on my dime to the bahamas, florida you name it. We were together all the time and it was wonderful. I guess she is young/hasn't had the opportunity to go out and have fun as much as she'd like to and I can't get mad at her for that (as bad as it kills me inside). She doesn't know what she wants. I feel as if I got too comfortable and maybe bored her, it really is eating me up, I thought she was happy because she would always tell me she was. This break up is also smacking me in the face and letting me know that I truly don't know who I am or what I want. I work at a job that is family owned and it isn't anything I like to do, my friends aren't there for me, and I absolutely despise the city I live in (east coast). People are absolutely not friendly here, and my heart has been telling me for some time to try something new. I want to relocate and meet new people, strive to find a life that I love in a new place. I was thinking about Colorado, as I love the outdoors and a laid back lifestyle. For me, happiness is more important than anything. I live with my brother now, but he is always out and about so I am usually alone. Im not trying to run away from her as I know it is over and shes not coming back. I have not contacted her at all since she broke it off with me nor do I plan on it. Im a very realistic person and don't hope for false dreams. For once I want to do something for me, and find what I truly want, and where I belong. I want to help people and serve a purpose. Thanks for listening.
d0nnivain Posted April 14, 2014 Posted April 14, 2014 It's not going to be easier to move as you get older. You might as well go now. A fresh start is never a bad thing. 1
JFReyes Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 I agree wiith the previous poster but why limit yourself? Travel the world and when you're ready to settle, move to Colorado. I wish I could.
sooshi Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 Based on your post, it sounds like you gave a whooole lot to her. You invested so much energy and money into her. What did she offer you? Anyway, break-ups often do motivate us to re-evaluate our lives, and what we want. Colorado sounds awesome. I'd love to go there someday. 1
HeartinPain Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 If you have the opportunity, you should do it now. It will give you a fresh start and outlook. It will be difficult to be able to get up and move to a different state later in life. However, do it for yourself and not because you are running away from the ex.
bluegreen Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 And that's where you made a mistake my friend you did this you did that you gave this you gave that she took it for granted. You bored crap out of her ( pretty ignorant thinking from her side ) but thats how it was some people just want to be treated bad. She wants excitement of some rough dude who is gonna make her cry 3 times a week send her few text when he feels like hooking up and will cheat on her and she will have enough material to whine to her girls for year about it. As you said she is 20 inexperienced silly air head green as turnip and twice as stupid which does not make her bad person she might be cute sweet and all that BUT all around wrong for you. Wait until all above happens she will come running soon enough its so typical its rather something between tragedy and comedy. You slept with child and got up pissed on well next time perhaps you will choose more wisely ...
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