spoilbatt Posted April 14, 2014 Posted April 14, 2014 Hi everyone, First of all, sorry for my english I'm french So, I met this guy one month ago. We started dating very quickly (he kissed me the first day we met), we really had fun together and were on the same page for a lot of things. We hanged out two times, two consecutive days, and one week after this and we had sex. The first two weeks he called me every day, several times a day. And then, he started pulling slowly away, calling me less, texting me only to send jokes, etc. He told me he had too much work (he's an entrepreneur) and couldn't tell me in advance when we could hang out again. I believed him because I saw he was online on facebook during the night sometimes and told me he had a one night stand the day after because of work. I don't think he lied to me about all his work. But I was really hurt because when someone truly wants to see you, he makes time for it. I waited for him during one month. I was on a real emotional roller-coaster : sad when I didn't had any news, happy when he called or texted me. One week ago, I told him I couldn't accept it anymore, I couldn't stay here waiting for a guy with whom I was not in a official relationship. He told me I was overthinking all the time and he was fed up. But the day after he told me he had missed his train and wanted to know if I was available to see him. I came to the train station. We had a great time. I was acting distant at first because I had not seen him for two weeks and didn't know what we "were" anymore, but he came to me to kiss me. I really thought he would make an effort to send me more texts and call me more often after this. But nothing changed. I was hurt, because I really felt I was the only one putting an effort to make this work. He called me on Friday, and we had a serious talk. I told him I didn't wanted to be an option in his life, I was ready to accept his busy life and not seeing him often, but not this situation. We texted in the evening, I told him I tried everything to make him understand I was serious about us, but he didn't reply. I sent a last text telling him I was obviously the only one wanting this relationship to work and that I was done. No answer, again. (He has a supersize ego, I think that's the main reason he didn't text back, and also because he was fed up). So my question is : should I contact him in one week or two? I really doubt he will come back because he's really proud, and because I am the one who decided to stop. I want him back, but I want him to change... What should I do? Thanks.
David87 Posted April 14, 2014 Posted April 14, 2014 No don't call him, you already did enough to make this relationship work, now it's his turn to do something if he's serious. If not then it wasn't meant to be.
martaldn Posted April 14, 2014 Posted April 14, 2014 I agree with David. U have done so much to show him how much you want this to work but he is not doing anything from his side so now the best thing for you to do is to leave things be. Let him contact you and dont be so available next time... maybe he will realize he really wants to be with you and he will work harder to get you. But you wont know until you stop contact him and be so available for him. 1
Author spoilbatt Posted April 14, 2014 Author Posted April 14, 2014 Yes I think you're right... It's really hard for me, because I feel we have a REAL connection... But I have to stop hoping he will come back otherwise I will never move on. If he does, it will be just wonderful, but if he doesn't, I could wait a very long time...
Elle1975 Posted April 14, 2014 Posted April 14, 2014 I wouldn't.. I know you have strong feelings for him but chasing him is going to make him run (makes me think about my dog.. I chase, he runs..)
Author spoilbatt Posted April 15, 2014 Author Posted April 15, 2014 Epic fail after 4 days NC I just sent him a message on facebook... Just sayin I thought all of this was a mess, nothing more... But still... I just cant stop thinking about him and its drivin me crazy
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