crispywat Posted April 14, 2014 Posted April 14, 2014 I have been in a relationship for about 2 months, yes early days. All was going great we both seem to of fallen for each other but i have one issue! She has a male "friend" she advised me this early on, i didnt think to much on it however things have effected me a little. Firstly she was texting him whilst we was out the other week, no harm in that perhaps but she hardly talked the entire night to me nad couldnt wait to check her phone for replies. I seeked him out on facebook and realised she literally likes everything he does on facebook if be pictures or comments (she doesnt me). Then i advised i thought it was a little strange she organised to go out with him this week, and told me at the time she was going out but not telling me where or with who. I obviously knew and told her but i find it strange behaviour. She texts him like most days ive not seen the texts of course but had seen one she was saying she had just been out for a walk and stuff when with me....again not giving him much either. Am i just over reactiong or is this a general issue i need worry about, am i just being possesive ? Thanks in advance
salparadise Posted April 14, 2014 Posted April 14, 2014 There is not enough information to say whether this "friend" is a real threat to your relationship, but the behaviors you mention are beyond what I would expect or be comfortable with... going out with him and not telling you, liking everything he does on facebook, texting every day and anticipating responses gives the impression that she is giving an unnatural amount of attention someone who is supposed to be just a friend. Does he ever spend time with the two of you? Trying to compartmentalize and keep the two of you from crossing paths would be another red flag. I do not think you're wrong to be concerned, however, the exact nature of it seems to be something of a mystery. And why she would want it that way is also a mystery. If I were you I'd think it important to get all of this out in the open. If attraction is the basis of this friendship then it's inappropriate.
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