Smilecharmer Posted April 14, 2014 Posted April 14, 2014 My son is overseas serving in the military. I have had so many bad dreams lately about him getting blown up and frankly I am terrified. I suppose our role as a parent doesn't end just because they are on their own and living far away. I wish I was handling this better. Any tips on managing my worries? I am trying to stay strong but my mind is racing and I feel so helpless.
gaius Posted May 1, 2014 Posted May 1, 2014 Just try and remember the odds are slim that anything will happen. Not exactly Vietnam we're fighting anymore. 4
turnera Posted May 2, 2014 Posted May 2, 2014 Fill your time with rewarding stuff, get in regular communication with him, and meditate. 2
mammasita Posted May 2, 2014 Posted May 2, 2014 I come from a looooong line of military. I am a vet, my father is retired military, my brother is military, my nephew is going to be a green beret, my ex husband is military.....I'm a government contractor....etc etc etc.... I can relate 100% There are a TON of support groups. Find one or two, reach out to other mothers/wives/daughters who have deployed family. Its hard for everyone, but its doable with a support system. 6
Tayla Posted May 3, 2014 Posted May 3, 2014 Slow your thought patterns down. Most of what is creating the worry is the imaginary concepts. Put them in perspective. Its absolutely OKAY to be concerned and care...he is your child no matter how old or adult he may be! You absolutely deserve to have him in your thoughts, do so with loving ideas...they are there.... 1
Author Smilecharmer Posted June 20, 2014 Author Posted June 20, 2014 I cannot wait until he comes home but I'm doing much better. I really appreciate the words of support.
atlg8r Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 My son is overseas serving in the military. I have had so many bad dreams lately about him getting blown up and frankly I am terrified. I suppose our role as a parent doesn't end just because they are on their own and living far away. I wish I was handling this better. Any tips on managing my worries? I am trying to stay strong but my mind is racing and I feel so helpless. My sister dealt with this for 7 months while my nephew served in the Marines in Afghanistan. He drove the MWRAP - vehicles supposedly immune to IEDs. He did get hit I think three times, fortunately escaping any serious injuries. It is rough - she just had to work through it. I would suggest church or a counselor if not spiritual. She also worked out a lot to relieve the stress. I pray he comes home safe and sound to you! Thank him for his service! 2
atlg8r Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 I come from a looooong line of military. I am a vet, my father is retired military, my brother is military, my nephew is going to be a green beret, my ex husband is military.....I'm a government contractor....etc etc etc.... I can relate 100% There are a TON of support groups. Find one or two, reach out to other mothers/wives/daughters who have deployed family. Its hard for everyone, but its doable with a support system. This reminded me... my sister joined a Marine Moms group. Some of the moms had sons in the same battalion as my nephew. They would share info whenever they heard from their Marines, and just provided general support to one another. They had a secret Facebook group and everything. 1
Grumpybutfun Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 I get it. When my son returned I threw up I was so releived. Having served myself, being deployed was nothing compared to having my child there. The advice about getting support is crucial. G 2
Author Smilecharmer Posted June 23, 2014 Author Posted June 23, 2014 I did join a support group. Sometimes I think it just compounds my anxiety because the other mothers and wives talk about their fears all the time.
potsticker Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 I did join a support group. Sometimes I think it just compounds my anxiety because the other mothers and wives talk about their fears all the time. but even if it compounds, it's carried by all of you, so you know there's someone else out there carrying your burdens as you carry theirs
turnera Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 Why don't you ask the women in this support group if they want to do something proactive, like knit blankets to send overseas to the troops?
preraph Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 Bless your heart. If you have any extra time and energy, channel all that worry into getting a little involved with some charity benefiting veterans or any organized efforts locally to send care packages, etc. I think participating will give you a feeling of being part of it and feel you are doing your part and you'll meet a lot of people in your same situation and gain support from them. Best wishes.
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