Isn't this kind of a rebound?? or GIGS? Really need insights!!

[lovesome]

A girl in a happy and amazing relationship with a great guy for 5 years plus.. They are each others first, best friends, and are soon planning to get married.. Out of nowhere, girl falls hard in love with some one else (A friend).. She is now trying to force herself into the old relationship, and one day confesses everything to the guy and says she is waiting for a miracle that somehow she can end this and be with the new guy.. So the guy with all his love and broken pieces of heart lets her go and inside he believes its the only way he can get her back someday with her heart that beats for him..

 

The girl is happier than ever before post break up with the new guy.. She thinks the new guy is just so very perfect, that the old one while a great guy, was never really compatible (friends would say she is not at all compatible with the new guy), that she never really loved him (oh she was crazy in love with him), and is idealizing this new guy to the core ... But just 2 months later, she is sad.. She is not happy.. She misses the old guy.. She laughs when with new guy, but when she is alone, it kills her.. She cant sleep at night.. She is thinking may be its coz she was too close to the old guy, and with time things will become better with the new guy.. They are moving too fast into relationship and getting too intimate.. The news that the old guy has started dating someone new is not helping.. But all this while she is not contacting her ex cuz even though she is doubting her decision, she cares for the old guy deeply and cant hurt him anymore!!

 

I am her friend and I want to help her but am not really sure how!! Am just supporting her in everything cuz I dont even want her to go back to her ex then hurt him again cuz he is such a great guy and deserves so much better than this!! She is a mess for some time now and I just want to be there for her!!

 

What you think where is this story heading for?? I would like to think its all downhill for the girl from here, if she is not happy now, how can she ever let go of this pain while she is with the new guy!! Isn't this behavior so much like a rebound?? Also sounds like GIGS?? She would even admit before break up that what she is doing is wrong but just cant resist the new guy!! Isn't this just infatuation?? And she really cares for the old guy, isn't that a form of love? Would appreciate some insights!!

[David87]

She made the bed and now she has to sleep in it. Tell her to let the old guy alone so he can heal and move on.

 

There's a big difference between care and love. If she really loved the old guy they still be together, but this isn't the case.Your friend needs to grow up and start taking responsibility for her actions.

[lovesome]

She made the bed and now she has to sleep in it. Tell her to let the old guy alone so he can heal and move on.

 

There's a big difference between care and love. If she really loved the old guy they still be together, but this isn't the case.Your friend needs to grow up and start taking responsibility for her actions.

 

 

Well knowing her I would say she is a great girl except what she did with him!! I know its crazy and I have no idea whats gotten into her mind, but she never thought of breaking up with him, tried her best to make things better for at least 2 months, but realized she is not keeping anyone happy, and one of the big reason of the BU was she was hurting him more by being with him and except the crazy 'How can you fall in love when you are already in love' part, I think she did the right things.. I see her terribly missing him but would never text him or call him, just spying on his whatsapp silently all the time, cuz she does not want to give him false hope or hurt him again!! She is taking responsibility but she is my friend and I want to see her happy too !!