elseaacych Posted April 14, 2014 Posted April 14, 2014 Once you fall in love with someone, and get to the attachment stage of the relationship, where you just love someone no matter what, will that feeling ever fade away, even if you have broken up and both moved on to other people, even after years and years? I admit, it is both a romantic and troubling proposition. I believe that the human heart has an infinite capacity for love, and that you can continue to love someone, even after they're long gone. It is troubling because, well, the only way to love them is to let them be... even if it is not with you! And sometimes it hurts. Anyway, those of you with better relationship experience out there, would you care to share your perspectives and experiences?
beach Posted April 14, 2014 Posted April 14, 2014 I do think there's unhealthy attachment. And also healthy attachment. Once any relationship is over and one person continues to hand the other too much of their power - that is unhealthy. If I am disrespected and/or disregarded - that is my reason not to stay attached. It's good to know where your healthy boundary is - and when/if that boundary is crossed - you have enough strength to simply say "it's over if this is how you treat me". To continue staying attached when it has ended will never allow a person to move forward. Growing and moving forward is always key. 1
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