JasonThomas7 Posted April 14, 2014 Posted April 14, 2014 I'm going to keep this short and sweet: I met a girl over a year ago started as friends, we have shared some amazing moments together and for awhile now she knows that I'm in love with her. She told me she was not ready to commit and go into a relationship shes had a rough patch and it seems like it's getting worse. Her parents are going through a divorce and I can tell she's really down and upset about it. I been trying to cheer her up and be there but she turned around and told me she needs space from me? I care about her deeply, and I would hate to see her sad I'm just not sure if I should give her the space, I don't want her to feel like I'm not there but at the time I want to respect her space because she has shown tones of respect throughout. Any advice would be highly appreciated, thank you guys in advance. Cheers.
Damaged217 Posted April 14, 2014 Posted April 14, 2014 This is a difficult time for her right now so I can understand why she would want some space. I would give her the space she asked for, but just let her know that you will be there if she needs you. When she's ready to start hanging out again, she will let you know.
LustAppeal Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 Giving space can be a hard thing to do and in most cases it causes the individual who needs to give it wondering if the relationship is over. Truth is, giving space is different from taking a break and as long as you both are aware of this then sometime space can be beneficial. If you start to get anxiety from it, make sure you're honest about it relationships are between two people so work as a pair. Good luck.
Author JasonThomas7 Posted April 15, 2014 Author Posted April 15, 2014 It is hard, we talked almost everyday so this is for sure different. However, I have been respecting the space and haven't talked to her since. She won't really open up to me, last time we spoke she stated that too much is happening in her life and she wants to be able to do it on her own with not much details.
LustAppeal Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 You haven't talked to her at all since you started giving her space... How long has it been?
Author JasonThomas7 Posted April 15, 2014 Author Posted April 15, 2014 I say about two weeks... never been in this situation so, I'm not sure if this is short or long.
LustAppeal Posted April 17, 2014 Posted April 17, 2014 Dude, that sounds like "A Break" not you giving space... Two weeks is a long time, she has to have considered your feelings by now and if not... well that says allot. I'd figure out whats going on. Better to ask instead of wondering. 1
Author JasonThomas7 Posted April 17, 2014 Author Posted April 17, 2014 Well that's the thing we are NOT dating. We started as friends however she knows i have feelings for her. But within the past month shes been acting distant, I know her parents divorce has a huge part and I have asked her if she is seeing someone and if that's what the space was for and she said no followed by just going through alot and i need sort my life out.
LustAppeal Posted April 17, 2014 Posted April 17, 2014 I see two possibilities: 1: She's just not that into you. <-good movie as well. 2: She's Actually is going through a hard time, and seeing how she isn't dating you she just wants to figure out what is going on, focus on that, then move back into a lifestyle.
gaius Posted April 17, 2014 Posted April 17, 2014 Don't ever confess feelings for a woman you're not even dating. You might as well start picking your nose in front of them, you'll get the same reaction. Ask her out instead. The only way you could make it worse is by keeping up contact after she basically said she's gotta get rid of you.
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