slightlyunhappy Posted February 2, 2005 Posted February 2, 2005 My original thread is somewhere in Second Chances. It has been three weeks since the breakup (three weeks exactly, actually) I finally realized yesterday that it was completely over. I realized I had to trust my gut instinct and also pay more heed to what my friends believed was happening as well. I've decided to accept the worst case scenario that my ex is hooking up with a person I considered a fairly good friend. This realization hit me in the middle of class, which I think helped control my reaction. It was precipitated by information that I was not supposed to be privy to and though it was far from a full confession, the circumstances are enough to indicate that I'm on the right track. (She's either hooking up with my friend or wanting to hook up with other people -- doesn't matter either way, it's over... now it's just a matter of how much damage there is, because if she's hooking up with my friend it's gonna suck a lot more than if she's hooking up with some other guy) In any case, after this realization, I decided to follow some very good advice from Risky Business.... "Sometimes, you just gotta say... what... the f-ck..." and asked out this other girl I had been interested in before I dated my ex. I have a date on Saturday now, and it feels great. Also, during the past few weeks I've taken time to detach myself from my old group of friends of which both my ex and the friend I referred to previously are a part of. I've found a lot of new friends (who hopefully have a lot less drama going on in their circle than mine) So for anyone else out there who feels like everything is ending, stay strong, keep your chin up and don't ever let them see you sad. Things will get better.
Pocky Posted February 3, 2005 Posted February 3, 2005 I have a date on Saturday now, and it feels great. Congratulations! I hope you have a great time.
Author slightlyunhappy Posted February 3, 2005 Author Posted February 3, 2005 I hope so too. Also, as a general update, yesterday, my soon-to-be-ex-friend gave me the heads up that he was thinking about dating my ex. Although later, after talking to some of my friends about it, the truth came forth that they had already been screwing each other for a week before this and that they had hooked up approximately one week after my ex had dumped me. If there was anything left to be resolved, I think this would do it. Closure doesn't get more final than this. Sh-t happens, I guess.
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