Haydn Posted April 23, 2014 Posted April 23, 2014 Always kissed on first meetings or chatting up a member of the opposite sex. Love that building positive flutter as the evening draws to an end. You have both got on well, laughed, poked fun at passers by. Pretended to know about wines. The wonderful realisation that she loves football/(Soccer for my USA chums). The sneaking of the arm around the shoulders, she does not resist, kiss on. You drop her home and give her a gentle smack on the lips. Obviously at that point you know if it going to work. Kissing reveals so many things. I couldn`t shake hands at the end of the night. `Thanks you did well, we`ll let you know on Monday` I am not talking about online dating here. This is purely a pub approach.
martaldn Posted April 23, 2014 Posted April 23, 2014 sure thing why no? if both of us had a good time and there is good chemistry then It comes naturally... its one of the best part of a date!
regine_phalange Posted April 23, 2014 Posted April 23, 2014 No. I dont feel that comfortable so early. Let some tension build up and better kiss later and at an unexpected moment. I really liked at the end of a first date when someone kissed my hand and held it for a moment before walking away. It made intentions clear without being pushy. 1
isisisweeping Posted April 23, 2014 Posted April 23, 2014 I don't like it unless I knew them for a while first, because I don't want to kiss a stranger. So I look at it unfavorably. But I almost never will not dodge a kiss even with no interest because it won't hurt anything and it makes me feel awkward
Omei Posted April 23, 2014 Posted April 23, 2014 (edited) I don't like first date kisses from strangers. Feels like a test.... We don't know each other... So there is no real intimacy there... Plus, if all I cared about was chemistry, there are hotter and younger guys I could go after and just have sex with ASAP without any pretense. If I am trying to develop a relationship, and the guy claims to be looking for a relationship... His credibility drops to zero if he pushes physical intimacy very soon... I also know that subsequent dates will not be about getting to know each other... But more about when we are having sex. Those men come across like the little kid in the backseat on a road trip... Constantly whining " are we there yet???" 10 min later... "Are we there yet" 10 min later... "Are we there yet" ... Instead of just enjoying the ride and getting to know each other. I have dated long enough to know that women need to push through the first month or two of BS with most men to get the 'real' him. Guys who need to kiss on the first date usually don't want to be known before sex, and don't like that process. These days I just dump guys who try to kiss me on the first date... No matter how much I liked him beforehand. Otherwise I know I am in for the little kid on a road trip experience... Boring. This is how I feel to a T And I've given up on dating because this is usually how it always go's. Edited April 23, 2014 by Omei 1
RedRobin Posted April 23, 2014 Posted April 23, 2014 This is how I feel to a T And I've given up on dating because this is usually how it always go's. These days, most people don't date with the intention of building intimacy or getting to know each other. It is about curbing their loneliness... Getting physical needs met. Almost never about really relating to another person. At first I was confused about this... Then I got angry... And now I am just intensely bored by the whole experience most of the time. ... I would much rather meet people in my daily activities and get to know them that way. 3
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