greenred Posted February 2, 2005 Posted February 2, 2005 Hello, i am about to finish my undergraduate degree and to begin further education next year. i met my current boyfriend and we have been together for a year now, but we will both leave this college. we agreed that we would apply to do things together when we are finished in may/june of this year, but so far we have not made any concrete plans. everything is so uncertain, and he will go home to brazil from april to write up his thesis. he says that we should get married one day and live together and be happy but i will do my masters in australia and we are now both in the US and he may or may not find a job close to me. he broke up with his ex since he came to the states even though he loved her- actually he led her on while finding a new girlfriend and then broke up with her. will he do the same with me if we decide to have a LDR? should we break up or is there any hope? please advise, thanks!!
tigerskye Posted February 2, 2005 Posted February 2, 2005 Everyone situation is different with LDR. Some people can handle them some cannot. Your boyfriend may have loved his ex but may have not been in love with her! Which if he was in love with her, it leads me to believe he cannot handle LDR. But if he is in love with you, he should make plans to be with you close. Though something I hae learned for my bf is that they don't make plans very early! Men will wait to the last minute and then they will be so annoyed with us because we have nagged them so much about it! To me, you need to sit down and ask him what he is looking at in yall's relationship. then yall should try to start making plans together. If he doesn't want to make plans with you, then you need to finish living your life. You have so much ahead of you ad you need to do what is right for you, if that is him then make it work, if it is your masters go get it. I know I am only your age but i gave up going to my #1 school for my boyfriend but I am happy I did. It is so different for many people. Some people would have hated their bf for that but I did not it was my dicision my bf did not make me and I am happy for it everyday!
Author greenred Posted February 2, 2005 Author Posted February 2, 2005 thanks tigerskyre, you are right and i am probably just over anxious. cause he loves me so much and all. i guess its because he recently wanted some "space" and said it was because he was stressed out at work and i did my best to get on with my life though it was killing me and this made him closer to me after. he does have a tendency to do things at the last minute so i shouldn't worry so much.. but ahh... i don't know why i am if that's not normal! he seems to balance things out very well so i wonder if i'm being too much in love, and not balancing out so that our relationship has equal love coming in from both sides. it is really difficult to talk to men about "problems": he seems to think i am blaming him when i bring up issues, etc. i say them anyway because i need to get things out of my system...
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