Cunning_Linguist Posted April 14, 2014 Posted April 14, 2014 She ended it; no need. I'm sure he'll be fine. Doesn't mean I can't have empathy for him..... 1
ASG Posted April 14, 2014 Posted April 14, 2014 I don't have to bring a lot to the table right now FYI OK since I'm only 18. AND...I do take care of myself. I look good for my man & I don't act like a STUPID ASS in public like some girls do OK? I'm going to college this fall so I will be successful eventually. I feel like u are trying to compare me to women in the 20s-30s or something. THATS NOT ME RIGHT NOW! I'm just trying to do casual dating & do safe dating OK? Do u even know what its like for a young cute black girl like me to walk the streets with all these PERVS ON THE LOOSE?! IME its RIDICULOUS. That's the only reason why I require my man to drive a car & not to be a princess NM. You demand all these thing but say you're off the hook cause you're only 18... At 18 I had a job AND a driver's license. And drove my mom's car whenever she could spare it. I know plenty of guys who never got their licenses. Some of them are approaching 40 now. They have no intention of ever learning to drive. And I know all about the "pervs" out there. Been going out on my own during the day and night for quite a few years now. I still ride public transport every time I leave the house, since having a car in the city I live in now is impractical.
GravityMan Posted April 14, 2014 Posted April 14, 2014 So not only are you going around with this "I'm NOT taking the public transportation" princess attitude, but you are also a hypocrite, seeing as you don't have your license, or a car either.... So why would you demand something of some one that you don't even have the ability to give yourself? I wish I could "like" your post about five times. I've met a couple of women 10-15 years ago who had an attitude much like the OP. Not specifically about car ownership...but just an entitled attitude in general. I quickly learned to run far away from such people.
Damaged217 Posted April 14, 2014 Posted April 14, 2014 I am amazed that this thread has gotten this long... 1
Shaun-Dro Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 I wish I could "like" your post about five times. I've met a couple of women 10-15 years ago who had an attitude much like the OP. Not specifically about car ownership...but just an entitled attitude in general. I quickly learned to run far away from such people. In New York City you get to meet a ton of self-entitled divas day and night. I ran into more than I care to remember. The OP is just another one of them. But often times than not, her type calms down after 35 or so when they're unable to land the so-called perfect man, so they settle for the next Joe on the horizon who asks them out.
hoping2heal Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 LOOK I said I'm gonna do it when I get the money to take lessons so I can get a license. Lessons aren't free HELLO! I'm not being a princess FYI I'm just not into riding public trains & shyt just like I did years ago in hs. I'M PASS THAT NOW! And besides I still ride them to get around anyways. I'm not demanding hot fancy cars or anything ok. Just a reliable car for us to have a peace of mind when going out & stuff. The last guy I tried to date did take me out a few times in his beat up car but I didn't mind because at least we didn't have the public bother us. I mean WTF this is really not an impossible requirement. AND...having a job is also on my check list LOL. Wait, why is this guy pathetic for being 24 and not having a license, when according to this post..HS was years ago, so you must be in your 20's and no license either? You shouldn't be looking down on others for things you have not even done yourself. Lessons aren't free...fine, maybe finances have kept him from getting his as well? Okay, do you have a job? 1
Armegoggon Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 OK...we're not together we was just talking but I deaded it anyways after he acted like he cant be bothered with trying. And no he doesn't have a drivers license either which is so STUPID! That's what annoyed me to begin with & he's acting like that's normal. WELL I don't think it is so there I ended it just last night & he called me a dumb bitch & other STUPID ASS NAMES but as u can see he's the immature one not me . Aww that's sad to hear you ended it. Oh well, you'll easily find someone who can drive. Also, maybe try learning to drive yourself as well. Don't expect a guy to be the driver. Girls driving is also nice too.
Radu Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 AND YEA SO?! We're both adults & he should be driving by now so no excuses! I used to date guys back in hs with no car but that's different. HE'S 24 YEARS OLD! Anyways...he says I'm asking too much of him but he was the one that was wanting to take me out and these are my requirements. AND I told him I'm not getting on the trains & buses over the weekend. ITS CRAZY OVER THE WEEKENDS!! Am I being ridiculous just because driving & having a car is on my dating check list? Depends ... If he lives in NY or any city with decent public transportation, a car can be a hindrance more than an asset. And 2nd, he would be crazy to listen to ultimatums, even if they are with good intent.
Radu Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 I don't have to bring a lot to the table right now FYI OK since I'm only 18. Not to mention that you're a girl. AND...I do take care of myself. I look good for my man & I don't act like a STUPID ASS in public like some girls do OK? Umm ... we don't know how you act in public, but we do go often on how you act here. What you just said is not in synch with the tone of your writing so far. I'm going to college this fall so I will be successful eventually. I feel like u are trying to compare me to women in the 20s-30s or something. Going to college does not guarantee success, just that you went to college. THATS NOT ME RIGHT NOW! I'm just trying to do casual dating & do safe dating OK? Do u even know what its like for a young cute black girl like me to walk the streets with all these PERVS ON THE LOOSE?! IME its RIDICULOUS. I think it's the same for every 18yr old girl out there. That's the only reason why I require my man to drive a car & not to be a princess NM. Ok, you say you require, but have you stopped and looked at yourself ? You are 18, and went out with a 24yr old. A 24yr old in the US, who does not drive [where generally a car is required], who calls you names when you break up with him. Weather or not he's a loser is irrelevant here, because he is not posting, you are; and you cannot change someone, but you can change yourself ... so stop going for losers who are much older than you maybe ? Also, for the future. Ultimatums in a relationship are bad news, avoid giving them and see them as a red flag when you receive them. There are better ways to get the point across if you want to, than to issue an ultimatum ... afterall, you catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. 2
Omei Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 Im 27 I dont drive, I find it scary the people on the road, it helps the environment, you get exercise, cars are really expensive most of my friends that have moved out actually dont have cars while the friends I have that live at home drive their parents cars or they have one but its the only thing they have to pay for. I dont feel that people in their 20s that its uncommon not to drive. 1
atlg8r Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 He doesn't have a driver license & NEVER DID! That's so freaking lame. I see guys 18-19 years old driving around fast every day. For a 24 year old not to be able to do that is PATHETIC to me. I mean what's so hard about getting a license & learning to drive? Don't he know most girls would want that if you're gonna be dating them? I dealt with hs boys when I was younger & rode the trains & buses all day & it pissed me F*CKING OFF! I'm trying to be an adult now & as soon as I can get a job I'm gonna go get a drivers license. The last guy I was trying to date had a car but kept making excuses as to why he couldn't see me because the car was acting stupid! I mean WTF?! Maybe he doesn't have the money to own a car. DUH. If you get this worked up over someone you barely know because he doesn't meet your checklist, I feel sorry for the guy you do end up dating seriously. You are I believe what men refer to as "high maintenance."
Cunning_Linguist Posted April 16, 2014 Posted April 16, 2014 Im 27 I dont drive, I find it scary the people on the road, it helps the environment, you get exercise, cars are really expensive most of my friends that have moved out actually dont have cars while the friends I have that live at home drive their parents cars or they have one but its the only thing they have to pay for. I dont feel that people in their 20s that its uncommon not to drive. yay someone that gets it!!!
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