KaylaP Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 AND YEA SO?! We're both adults & he should be driving by now so no excuses! I used to date guys back in hs with no car but that's different. HE'S 24 YEARS OLD! Anyways...he says I'm asking too much of him but he was the one that was wanting to take me out and these are my requirements. AND I told him I'm not getting on the trains & buses over the weekend. ITS CRAZY OVER THE WEEKENDS!! Am I being ridiculous just because driving & having a car is on my dating check list?
MidwestUSA Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 Well, no, you're not crazy at all. But he's under no obligation to comply. Then you can move on to someone who has a car. Simple. 9
HappyLove Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 If a man had the means to have a car don't you think he'd have one? A gf demanding one isn't going to make it more possible.
JennHenn Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 If it's on your 'dating check list' , why did you start a relationship with him? In my opinion, you can't know something about a person, be ok with it, get in a relationship with them, then demand that they change it. 6
UnlitCandle Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 If you guys live in a city where public transportation is readily available... and driving makes no sense at all (like NYC)... Then pushing him to get a car is a bit much 3
LustAppeal Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 Best part about dating is you get to choose the type of relationship you want to have and search for it through dating. If you want a man with a car and he thinks that's too much, compromise or move on.
HomanWater Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 What are circumstances? Did he lose his license for DUI or something? Or plain never had it? If so, did he try to get it and failed? Or just never bothered? Ability/permission to drive a car isn't to be taken for granted. It's a priviledge and not just something everyone in the world can and should do.
Author KaylaP Posted April 13, 2014 Author Posted April 13, 2014 If it's on your 'dating check list' , why did you start a relationship with him? In my opinion, you can't know something about a person, be ok with it, get in a relationship with them, then demand that they change it. I'm not in a relationship with him at this point BECAUSE...we just met ok. We was talking on the phone & he asked me what I looked for in a guy & I told him driving & having a car is important to me. He threw a f*cking HISSY FIT just because I feel this is important to me but he's the one that wants to take me out! Now since he cant drive & wont be driving I guess it wont be working out wont it? FYI I would've found out if we started going out though.
Salvatore85 Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 I'm not in a relationship with him at this point BECAUSE...we just met ok. We was talking on the phone & he asked me what I looked for in a guy & I told him driving & having a car is important to me. He threw a f*cking HISSY FIT just because I feel this is important to me but he's the one that wants to take me out! Now since he cant drive & wont be driving I guess it wont be working out wont it? FYI I would've found out if we started going out though. Considering the hostility you're showing towards other posters I'd be willing to bet you're doing him a favor.... 17
Author KaylaP Posted April 13, 2014 Author Posted April 13, 2014 What are circumstances? Did he lose his license for DUI or something? Or plain never had it? If so, did he try to get it and failed? Or just never bothered? Ability/permission to drive a car isn't to be taken for granted. It's a priviledge and not just something everyone in the world can and should do. He doesn't have a driver license & NEVER DID! That's so freaking lame. I see guys 18-19 years old driving around fast every day. For a 24 year old not to be able to do that is PATHETIC to me. I mean what's so hard about getting a license & learning to drive? Don't he know most girls would want that if you're gonna be dating them? I dealt with hs boys when I was younger & rode the trains & buses all day & it pissed me F*CKING OFF! I'm trying to be an adult now & as soon as I can get a job I'm gonna go get a drivers license. The last guy I was trying to date had a car but kept making excuses as to why he couldn't see me because the car was acting stupid! I mean WTF?!
Author KaylaP Posted April 13, 2014 Author Posted April 13, 2014 Considering the hostility you're showing towards other posters I'd be willing to bet you're doing him a favor.... OMG what are u talking about? I'm just replying to people. I never said bad stuff to anyone on here. Just explaining what's going on so people know. WOW!
HomanWater Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 He doesn't have a driver license & NEVER DID! That's so freaking lame. I see guys 18-19 years old driving around fast every day. For a 24 year old not to be able to do that is PATHETIC to me. I mean what's so hard about getting a license & learning to drive? Don't he know most girls would want that if you're gonna be dating them? I dealt with hs boys when I was younger & rode the trains & buses all day & it pissed me F*CKING OFF! I'm trying to be an adult now & as soon as I can get a job I'm gonna go get a drivers license. The last guy I was trying to date had a car but kept making excuses as to why he couldn't see me because the car was acting stupid! I mean WTF?! You do realize some people may have disabilities preventing them from driving a vehicle? You do realize some people, even without physical disabilities, may still be terrible drivers for other reasons (eg. concentration issues) and therefore rightfully not get a license because of that? But hey, it's your priviledge to have any dating criteria you see fit. Not stating otherwise.
Keenly Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 He doesn't have a driver license & NEVER DID! That's so freaking lame. I see guys 18-19 years old driving around fast every day. For a 24 year old not to be able to do that is PATHETIC to me. I mean what's so hard about getting a license & learning to drive? Don't he know most girls would want that if you're gonna be dating them? I dealt with hs boys when I was younger & rode the trains & buses all day & it pissed me F*CKING OFF! I'm trying to be an adult now & as soon as I can get a job I'm gonna go get a drivers license. The last guy I was trying to date had a car but kept making excuses as to why he couldn't see me because the car was acting stupid! I mean WTF?! So not only are you going around with this "I'm NOT taking the public transportation" princess attitude, but you are also a hypocrite, seeing as you don't have your license, or a car either.... So why would you demand something of some one that you don't even have the ability to give yourself? 15
HappyLove Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 In a relationship you can only demand what you bring to the table yourself. So if you don't have a car or license either then you're being a HYPOCRITE!
ExpatInItaly Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 So don't date him. This isn't difficult. You're getting wound up, and for what? If this is on your "dating checklist" and he doesn't meet your criteria, move on. Go and get your own driver's license, too. 2
UnlitCandle Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 He doesn't have a driver license & NEVER DID! That's so freaking lame. People have their reasons for not getting a license. I see guys 18-19 years old driving around fast every day. For a 24 year old not to be able to do that is PATHETIC to me. I'd say good for him, not behaving like an idiot endangering the general public. There is a reason why the insurance rate is so high for that age group, and it is because those are the boneheads that goes 70mph in a residential area and then wrap themselves around a tree or hit someone because they were trying to be cool. I mean what's so hard about getting a license & learning to drive? Don't he know most girls would want that if you're gonna be dating them? Nothing hard about it, maybe he doesn't want to do it. Also, speak for yourself for the girls part, I know plenty of women who don't want to be driven around like a princess. I dealt with hs boys when I was younger & rode the trains & buses all day & it pissed me F*CKING OFF! Don't even know where to begin with this one, a lot of underlying issues it seems. I'm trying to be an adult now & as soon as I can get a job I'm gonna go get a drivers license. Being an adult is more than getting a job and a license, you also have to behave like one. The last guy I was trying to date had a car but kept making excuses as to why he couldn't see me because the car was acting stupid! Downside of dating someone with a car, it could be he loves his car more than you. I mean WTF?! Well, you're not in a relationship with the guy, so he has virtually no reason to do anything for you, let alone get a car so you can be driven around like a princess. 3
sweetjasmine Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 I'm trying to be an adult now & as soon as I can get a job I'm gonna go get a drivers license. Him not having a license = pathetic. You not having a license and expecting other people to drive you around because the buses and trains piss you off = okay. Now I see why you said you're trying to be an adult. Keep trying, and maybe you'll get there some day. 11
Purepony Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 Move on ... by 24 I owned 5 cars and building more I would find someone else
Author KaylaP Posted April 13, 2014 Author Posted April 13, 2014 So not only are you going around with this "I'm NOT taking the public transportation" princess attitude, but you are also a hypocrite, seeing as you don't have your license, or a car either.... So why would you demand something of some one that you don't even have the ability to give yourself? LOOK I said I'm gonna do it when I get the money to take lessons so I can get a license. Lessons aren't free HELLO! I'm not being a princess FYI I'm just not into riding public trains & shyt just like I did years ago in hs. I'M PASS THAT NOW! And besides I still ride them to get around anyways. I'm not demanding hot fancy cars or anything ok. Just a reliable car for us to have a peace of mind when going out & stuff. The last guy I tried to date did take me out a few times in his beat up car but I didn't mind because at least we didn't have the public bother us. I mean WTF this is really not an impossible requirement. AND...having a job is also on my check list LOL.
Keenly Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 LOOK I said I'm gonna do it when I get the money to take lessons so I can get a license. Lessons aren't free HELLO! I'm not being a princess FYI I'm just not into riding public trains & shyt just like I did years ago in hs. I'M PASS THAT NOW! And besides I still ride them to get around anyways. I'm not demanding hot fancy cars or anything ok. Just a reliable car for us to have a peace of mind when going out & stuff. The last guy I tried to date did take me out a few times in his beat up car but I didn't mind because at least we didn't have the public bother us. I mean WTF this is really not an impossible requirement. AND...having a job is also on my check list LOL. Do you really not see that absolute ludicrousness of demanding some one have something that you can not even provide for yourself? You have no right to demand he have a car when you yourself can't even provide your own. 2
Shaun-Dro Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 (edited) AND YEA SO?! We're both adults & he should be driving by now so no excuses! I used to date guys back in hs with no car but that's different. HE'S 24 YEARS OLD! Anyways...he says I'm asking too much of him but he was the one that was wanting to take me out and these are my requirements. AND I told him I'm not getting on the trains & buses over the weekend. ITS CRAZY OVER THE WEEKENDS!! Am I being ridiculous just because driving & having a car is on my dating check list? Just like a few posters have already said in here, which I have to agree on is the fact that you want to be driven around like a princess. You can deny this if you want to but this is how I and a few others see it and I think this potential boyfriend of yours sees and feels the same way too, so that in itself might also be why he's stopping himself in his tracks. Seeing that you're barely out of high school it's no surprise why you think this way. A little more maturity will certainly cure things eventually. Edited April 13, 2014 by Shaun-Dro error 1
Armegoggon Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 Does he have a driver's license? If he does, he could just drive his parents car. Honestly, it could save quite a bit of money. Also, I suggest you either give up on the car driving requirements or break up.
Imported Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 Perfectly understandable OP. Just move on to a different guy. End of story. I had my first car before I turned 16. It was a '70 Ford Mustang Fastback. My dad bought it for me . Wish I still had that car, it's worth much more money now. It didn't really help me much with girls in Highschool though because I didn't actually try back then. That guy will figure things out for himself and what he needs to do or not do. You don't really owe him anything. Your choices are yours to make, no need for hostility, no need for this thread. Just move on.
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Ruby Slippers Posted April 14, 2014 Posted April 14, 2014 You're complicating this needlessly. You only want to date a guy with a car. He doesn't have a car. So don't date him. 1
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