JennHenn Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 As the title reads really. Just wondering how often you have contact, whether it be calls, texts, or online messages with someone you've been on a few dates with? Thanks
BikerAccnt Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 When I just started dating the woman I am seeing now, it wasn't more than once, maybe twice a week for the first few weeks. Nothing more than talking for a bit to set up the date. Now that we are still going out nearly 2 months, it's pretty much every day. Unfortunately with our schedules, we still only manage to see each other only once a week.
mema1982 Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 When your interested in a girl you dated for the first time you should contact the day after (no doubt) between 4-6 pm now if you have nothing interesting to say and just wanna get her attention then just text her a quite or a funny text and then call her the next day... basically as a general rule know this HIT IT WHILE IT'S STILL HOT but don't act like a no life person or look like a needy one :-) 2
Gaeta Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 (edited) If we have been on one date and we both expressed the desire to have a second date, we both feel this is a good date, then I expect contact each 1-2 days to touch base. A second date should be set up by the end of date 1 and if not then by the end of that first week. Some people will date with no contact in between dates, that's not for me, it's not my style. My philosophy is if I am on a dating website it's to find someone that is truly interested in getting to know me, and anyone lucky warm about me after a few dates will be let go. You decide for yourself what is a decent communication style. If you are not comfortable with communication once a week then don't date these men. Plenty of men out there who do want good consistency in their communication. ADD: I have been dating someone for 6 weeks and we speak each day. Edited April 13, 2014 by Gaeta
sagetalk Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 As the title reads really. Just wondering how often you have contact, whether it be calls, texts, or online messages with someone you've been on a few dates with? Thanks I wouldn't text or call too much for the first few dates. It helps with weeding out the crazy people. If someone rejects you for not texting or calling enough after a few dates, count yourself blessed you are rid of them. 2
Mo_Do Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 I went out with a girl for the first time on Friday night and I felt it went well mutually. I didn't contact her that night and wasn't going to contact her the day after either, I was going to contact her today (Sunday). I was on a less than stellar date with another girl last night (Saturday) and heard a message on my phone so I took a washroom break to check. The girl from Friday had sent me the old "hey you, whats up?" - so I responded. I'd say that worked out quite well to my favor 1
d0nnivain Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 Maybe 1-2x per week getting together plus 2-3 other points of contact: a call, text or e-mail. I was married before FB so I don't know exactly how that works or factors into the equation.
laylay305 Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 this is something i often wonder about as well. i hear people say "if he doesn't contact you daily, he's not that into you". but then there are those who say that is way too frequent in the beginning. personally, i don't like to go more than a few days without contact. but, that being said, there's no reason to try to keep conversation going just for the sake of it.
pyramid Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 I start feeling ignored if we don't text every other day at a minimum. After a few weeks, daily contact is ideal. Doesn't have to be a long convo, I'm fine with a short "how was your day" thing or a funny pic, etc. 1
acrosstheuniverse Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 Usually daily, nothing too heavy just a few texts sprinkle throughout the day about what we are up to. That's enough for me, not fussed about calls unless I'm with someone in a relationship. I prefer text to whatsapp as I like being able to take my time replying and find it creepy when someone can see every time I've used the app, although I've had dating relationships start out with literally 50 messages a day: it burnt out, and at this time I was on dissertation period so I had that free time whereas I don't now. It finds its own rhythm, I don't false wait to reply to a text if I can reply straight away, nor do I drop other commitments to sit on my phone. But less than one or two messagess a day I'd presume he wasn't too interested, and that in itself would dim my own interest level whether or not it's true, and once it's dimmed it's hard to get back. If you like someone, get in touch!
David87 Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 It's annoying sometime to get hundreds of texts per day. For example I'm dating a 20 year old girl for 2 weeks now. Yesterday I've texted her asking how she's doing and she kept on texting for 5 hours ..... Meaningless texts, I've stopped responding but she kept sending texts eventually I told her Good night .... It's normal to text and call every day but not like my date lol ....
acrosstheuniverse Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 It's annoying sometime to get hundreds of texts per day. For example I'm dating a 20 year old girl for 2 weeks now. Yesterday I've texted her asking how she's doing and she kept on texting for 5 hours ..... Meaningless texts, I've stopped responding but she kept sending texts eventually I told her Good night .... It's normal to text and call every day but not like my date lol .... This would annoy me too. I'm only interested in texts with something to say, not back and forth 'hey how's you?' unless it develops further than this superficial level.
Author JennHenn Posted April 19, 2014 Author Posted April 19, 2014 Thanks for the replies Have met up with this guy one or two times since posting this thread. We can only really meet once per week due to work and other commitments, but we don't text every day. I would probably usually let my mind wander and start thinking 'he must not be that bothered about me' , however, this time, for whatever reason, I don't feel that way. Things have gone really well and I do feel like he's into me. Also, he has joked a couple of times about not wanting to come across as 'too keen', and although he said it jokingly, I do think it's something that he's aware of, so maybe that's why it's more like every other day or every few days... Hope so anyway
J21 Posted April 19, 2014 Posted April 19, 2014 (edited) Personally for me, after meeting once or twice, maybe a text every 2-3 days, and then I try to call to set up the next date. You hardly know the person yet and don't want to be overbearing either. I realized the relationships that took time to develop lasts longer and are more fulfilling, than relationships that started quick when the iron was hot. I've been in relationships where we took it nice and slow, and those were always the best ones for me. On the flip side, I've been in a relationships where we texted/communicated non stop, and stroke because the iron was hot. After becoming official, the relationship fizzled out shortly after. Edited April 19, 2014 by J21
GemmaUK Posted April 20, 2014 Posted April 20, 2014 It's annoying sometime to get hundreds of texts per day. For example I'm dating a 20 year old girl for 2 weeks now. Yesterday I've texted her asking how she's doing and she kept on texting for 5 hours ..... Meaningless texts, I've stopped responding but she kept sending texts eventually I told her Good night .... It's normal to text and call every day but not like my date lol .... Eek! Sounds like my ex...and he was 42! Every couple of days and only to sort out the next date, otherwise you may not have a lot to say when you see each other.
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