barrelwave Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 Does anyone feel half-hearted about letting go of the past? It's almost a year getting over the ex. I've met new people through online dating sites occasionally. But the lack of chemistry makes me think of her and the good times we had. Has anyone had this sort of feelings? How are you coping? 1
lostfriend Posted April 14, 2014 Posted April 14, 2014 Hey I am in the situation with my ex. I love him. I had to leave him after many years spent together. I feel like half of me is missing. Do you still love her?
AnyaNova Posted April 16, 2014 Posted April 16, 2014 It is coming up on a year since I began talking to and met my ex. I miss him too and the lack of chemistry with online people has me in the same boat. I am here again because the last weeks I find myself wishing he'd show up at my door like some early 90's movie or something. He didnt even like my cat much and he really really broke my heart but I can't seem to forget him and every time I think I'm over him and loved on, something always reminds me. He probably threw away the letter I wrote him and never reads it, or is dating someone else. I am sorry. I apologize for over venting. How are you feeling tonight. Did you dump her or she you? If you got back in contact and it would t set you back to square one , what do you think would happen? And, As the previous poster asked, Do you love her?
HappyxFaith Posted April 16, 2014 Posted April 16, 2014 I think for me, if you're still feeling like you're missing half of your heart, I don't think it's wise to try to date someone else, because you will just end up comparing and fail to recognize who is compatible and has chemistry with you vs someone that does not. I believe you have to be whole first, as you have always been before you met this person, and once you regain yourself and recognize that they actually don't have half of your heart, then you heal. This guy once told me that we think we can control a lot of things in our lives, but actually the only thing we can control are our attitudes and behaviors. We can influence the things outside of that, but never control. And many times the reason we feel anxiety, fear, or sadness is because we are letting those things we cannot control take over our attitudes and behaviors. There is much more to life that meeting another person! Enjoy your own company, feel happy and content with what you have, and gracefully let go of the things that are not meant to be in your life! Then I think, you'll start seeing how much more interesting other people have become. 2
Author barrelwave Posted July 14, 2014 Author Posted July 14, 2014 Hey I am in the situation with my ex. I love him. I had to leave him after many years spent together. I feel like half of me is missing. Do you still love her? Sorry for the late reply. I have some residual feelings, but I think I'm just having frequent thoughts about her. I still have those occasional dreams. I'd say that I'm leaning towards "No". I don't really love her anymore. I'm letting go.
Author barrelwave Posted July 14, 2014 Author Posted July 14, 2014 It is coming up on a year since I began talking to and met my ex. I miss him too and the lack of chemistry with online people has me in the same boat. I am here again because the last weeks I find myself wishing he'd show up at my door like some early 90's movie or something. He didnt even like my cat much and he really really broke my heart but I can't seem to forget him and every time I think I'm over him and loved on, something always reminds me. He probably threw away the letter I wrote him and never reads it, or is dating someone else. I am sorry. I apologize for over venting. How are you feeling tonight. Did you dump her or she you? If you got back in contact and it would t set you back to square one , what do you think would happen? And, As the previous poster asked, Do you love her? Sorry for the late reply. You don't need to apologize for expressing your thoughts. I hope you are coping better. Well it's been months since I got online here on the forum, but your questions are still relevant. She dumped me, and now that some time has passed, it does not really matter anymore. I'm not sure by "square one", do you mean that I'd get a heartache again, or if the relationship could start afresh? I used to wish that things could reconcile. But I've made the efforts and I've done enough. She was not interested. It really takes two to make a relationship right. Now, I'm determined to move on.
realfriends Posted July 16, 2014 Posted July 16, 2014 Does anyone feel half-hearted about letting go of the past? It's almost a year getting over the ex. I've met new people through online dating sites occasionally. But the lack of chemistry makes me think of her and the good times we had. Has anyone had this sort of feelings? How are you coping? Yeah. Im around 9 months. I feel practically the same as you. I want to get over it for good but I tell myself, someone who was in my life for 5 years, I might not ever get over it, but I am getting used to it. Getting used to being alone. Getting used to her being out of my life I still question myself a lot if I should contact her, sort of make sure the ball is in her court if she ever wants to reconcile. I question a lot of things but they are all things I can't really control. 2
Author barrelwave Posted July 17, 2014 Author Posted July 17, 2014 Yeah. Im around 9 months. I feel practically the same as you. I want to get over it for good but I tell myself, someone who was in my life for 5 years, I might not ever get over it, but I am getting used to it. Getting used to being alone. Getting used to her being out of my life I still question myself a lot if I should contact her, sort of make sure the ball is in her court if she ever wants to reconcile. I question a lot of things but they are all things I can't really control. Hey there, thanks for sharing. I think when we loved deeply, no matter the timespan, it's often hard to let go because we care. Don't wait for reconciliation anymore. Try to reclaim your life back. If someone truly loves you or wants a relationship, he or she would have stayed. And try to figure things out 1 day at a time. But of course, it is always easier to look at the short term, and when pain or apathy prevails, people usually want out. I make it sound easy because now I see things in a different light with hindsight.
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