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What do I tell men about my past?


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The more experienced, sophisticated and mature a man is, the less likely he will be bothered by your past. I've dated men who were quite wild when young but settled down later when they grew up. It happens, you know.

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The more experienced, sophisticated and mature a man is, the less likely he will be bothered by your past. I've dated men who were quite wild when young but settled down later when they grew up. It happens, you know.

 

Or desperate.

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Well here we go! You're not good enough for YOU, you'll never be good enough for anyone else.

 

Before you go around asking for forgivness, or offering apologies, you have to forgive yourself.

Agree with this post more than others.

 

You haven't truly forgiven yourself yet IMO. Honesty is important going forward - don't spill your guts on the 1st date, but if questioned, don't hide. The past isn't the sum total of who you are, but it contributes a great deal. Accepting it is hard, and I know that you may be sensitive to people harshly judging you for it in the event that it comes out. Unfair though it may be, that is just what is going to happen. Part of accepting your past and forgiving yourself, is becoming comfortable with and accepting that people will judge or view you negatively.

 

As long as you have moved on completely, it will become much easier. You're still a young woman so don't think of yourself as a lost cause. Accept and continue to grow as a person.

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