Author AtTheStart Posted April 15, 2014 Author Posted April 15, 2014 I hear you totally. Really Im just reporting the update. And if I never hear from her, I never hear from her! Oh well! Really Im ok with that. If she does then, "oh cool that's a surprise"...if she doesn't I won't have been banking on it or looking forward to it so will be further along the way of keeping her in the past. I know everyone needs a dose of reality so maybe I am oddly delusional about just how OK I am with the fact I might never hear from her. I've been from the mind set that I WONT. But Im really saying that she absolutely doesn't have to be in my life and she's not going to have access to my life, Ive been getting the point of the cliche, "smile because it happened..." ...if we catch up down the road of life then cool, 2 people who meant something to each other catch up as totally different people...if we don't then oh well, I still will have these lessons of the relationship, and then the breakup to help me find who was meant for me. In any event, I WILL find the person who was meant for me...someone who I'll never have these exact problems with, someone who's an even better match for me. And someone who complements me as I do to them.
thysecret Posted April 22, 2014 Posted April 22, 2014 Well as much as you said you will find someone better, deep inside you want her back badly but you're afraid to get lead on. We are in the same situation. I told my ex-bf that i was afraid to get friendzone by him but he said "even friends can become lovers again, the reason i want to be friends with you is because i hope my feelings will come back again" Well i guess i would get flamed for this but i believe in fighting for what you love. I tried NC but i prefer to be on LC. I understand how you feel when she give you ****ty response when you reach out to her. Believe me, i screwed many times by sending "explosive text gnat behavior". The only good thing about NC is to heal yourself but it does not get him/her back. Everyone tells me i deserve someone better, but call me stubborn or what, i'll keep trying to get him back. I won't push him, i'll just be there for him as a friend first. IF she can fall for you once, why can't she fall in love with you again? There is once that i broke up with my ex because he was a big abusive cheater, but after few weeks, he tried talking nicely to me and i sorta have some feelings back. But he totally screwed it by scolding me and blaming me for the break up and THATS IT! But well, perhaps in few weeks time, i'll think differently? HAHA! my mind changes way too fast which sometimes confused me.
hurts2death Posted April 22, 2014 Posted April 22, 2014 .....and remember there is NO special other one.
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