truelove92 Posted April 12, 2014 Posted April 12, 2014 (edited) Hi all, I am in long distance relation with my childhood classmate who later shifted to other place. We spend lot of talking lot of time talking to each other after we got into the relation. We take care of each other and support each other in every aspect. We love each other a lot. Like every love story we started getting some problems. We used to talk about romance on phone. After an year she started saying that she has got no feelings for me. We do not meet much as it is long distance. But we have met quite a few times. We hugged each other, kissed and cuddled. But she says she has no feelings for. She cant imagine me as her husband. She can't imagine me having sex with her. We had a discussion about this for many times. She always says cant we stay together with only LOVE and no romance? Though i tried convincing her she is not ready to accept. She is not cheating on me. She is not that kind of girl. She's a nerd. She is nice girl. We love each other. She cant bear me moving close with other girls. Now my problem is? What could this girl expect? As a boy, i have lot of desires and fantasies? Can the feelings be generated or developed by staying close with each or spending sometime? Will she come back in my life? At the same time, I cant let my dream life let go that way.. Please help me out. I am not even able to eat and sleep since this problem picked up its heat.. :confused: Edited April 12, 2014 by truelove92
Tressugar Posted April 12, 2014 Posted April 12, 2014 Do yourself a favor and move on to someone else who will want and honor you.
Author truelove92 Posted April 13, 2014 Author Posted April 13, 2014 Thanks for the reply dear. Do you mean to say its not possible for her to get feelings on me? Is it not possible if we spend some time together?
justwhoiam Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 Will i get her back? You never had her. She always says cant we stay together with only LOVE and no romance? What she's really saying is: can we love each other if I'm not attracted to you? There's only one answer to that, and it's not the one you'd hope for. Can the feelings be generated or developed by staying close with each or spending sometime? If she's not attracted to you, the only way is she gets attracted to you. And that's not always possible. Be real. There might be way to increase attraction. Search info online, there are even guys who will teach you how to. But I guess you'd be wasting your time, because their methods work in person not from afar. How old are you both? How far from each other?
Author truelove92 Posted April 13, 2014 Author Posted April 13, 2014 Many people say.. Just MOVE ON! Am struggling to break up with her. We had been in relation for 3 years and our age is 22 now.
justwhoiam Posted April 15, 2014 Posted April 15, 2014 Am struggling to break up with her. Being with someone who's not attracted to you brings so much unsatisfaction, believe me. Especially in the long run. You'd be missing out a lot. And the special feeling of being loved in the flesh too. Couples that need to be apart can make it through the distance just knowing that they'll soon be together again, and love each other in person. You can't really make a LDR work with no attraction.
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