ExposedBrick Posted April 12, 2014 Posted April 12, 2014 When obtaining a phone number via a bar or OLD, is it better to call or text?
ja123 Posted April 12, 2014 Posted April 12, 2014 It's "safer" to text. However, I'd call. If she's really interested she'll pick up or call you back when you leave a voicemail. Texting could lead to endless texts and false hopes and expectations. In other words, she could just text you back for entertainment and/or an ego boost, but not be serious. Calling will force her to show her hand early in the game, so you won't waste your time. 1
acrosstheuniverse Posted April 12, 2014 Posted April 12, 2014 I prefer a text. Calls are fine when they are scheduled 'hey, wanna chat later on tonight?' so that you both know if you're free or not, and they are essential before meeting up with somebody, I have to hear the guy's voice first. But to just randomly call me before we've agreed on it, or before we've met? A little weird. Plus I'm usually busy and not free to speak and don't always have time to call back. 3
SJC2008 Posted April 12, 2014 Posted April 12, 2014 When courting a woman call her. That's the right way to do it even if this is generation text. If she prefers texting she can put her big girl panties on and tell you when you call her. Some will tell you right off the bat o text them so it's not usually a big "problem". 1
soccerrprp Posted April 12, 2014 Posted April 12, 2014 My first contact is ALWAYS by calling unless specifically requested to text. I have never had anyone request texting over calling. 1
iMissHerSoSoMuch Posted April 12, 2014 Posted April 12, 2014 I wouldn't do anything , DONT CALL , DON'T TEXT. The next time you see her , she will definitely ask why you took her number if u won't call (or text , one of either) that's when u will know what to do with the number.
Ruby Slippers Posted April 12, 2014 Posted April 12, 2014 My feeling is that men call and boys text. Granted, I'm in my 30s. I know some 20-somethings prefer to conduct a lot more of their social and dating lives via text. 7
sagetalk Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 When obtaining a phone number via a bar or OLD, is it better to call or text? Call, it's not that hard.
Armegoggon Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 What do you mean by "O.L.D."? And I'd say call because it shows that you're still interested and if he/she will reply the call and chat for a bit, then this means that it is a real conversation.
J21 Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 CALL. You get your answer right then and there. If you text, you'll sit around, constantly checking your phone waiting for her to respond (who knows if she even would). If she doesn't pick up or gives you an excuse without offering an alternate date, flush the number down the toilet and move on.
bluegreen Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 Geez I don't know are we In High School or Not ? OK NOT so why would we behave in such mode then you call , you come up to her place you pick the date you walk her to the door thats what adults do have done always.
WP4046 Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 When obtaining a phone number via a bar or OLD, is it better to call or text? Call of course so you can get a feel for the personality. If you just got someone's number tonight online you may not be able to meet until next weekend so why TEXT ONLY when you can talk a little?
WP4046 Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 I prefer a text. Calls are fine when they are scheduled 'hey, wanna chat later on tonight?' so that you both know if you're free or not, and they are essential before meeting up with somebody, I have to hear the guy's voice first. But to just randomly call me before we've agreed on it, or before we've met? A little weird. Plus I'm usually busy and not free to speak and don't always have time to call back. so you are always busy to talk on the phone but not type endless text messages?
quidproquo89 Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 When obtaining a phone number via a bar or OLD, is it better to call or text? I personally don't like phone calls, its an odd thing that runs in my immediate family. Neither my parents, sister or I like phone calls, really weird. However if pre-arranged, and your both expecting the call, I would do so
Priv Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 I text to setup a date. I hate calling and have never been comfortale with it. There are no visual cues in the conversation and I find the conversations stale (mostly to do with me). Especially when you hardly know the other person. Only 6+ months into the relationship I start to warm up to the idea of calling.
UnlitCandle Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 Text for dates and outings, can't really forget things if its written down. I personally don't like talking on the phone, so I'd text to setup something to talk to someone in person. General courtesy rules really, also applicable to dating.
Joaquin Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 If you met at a bar, you call. If you met online, you call. If you're a teenager, you text. 4
Soursoupz Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 CALL! The world today is to much about text. And that works allot against you. Because there is no emotion evolve ,people dont know what you really about. and people fake alot true text. Call and talk so you can know and hear if she is interested etc. 1
mema1982 Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 It Depends: Call - is better if you wanna show your serious Text - is better if you wanna be the spontaneous guy that tale it lightly
WP4046 Posted April 13, 2014 Posted April 13, 2014 Texting to set up a date with a person you never talked to before is increasing the chances of a guy meeting a crossdresser being stood up
acrosstheuniverse Posted April 14, 2014 Posted April 14, 2014 so you are always busy to talk on the phone but not type endless text messages? I can reply to texts as and when I get chance, and that takes a lot less time (maybe 20 seconds to a couple minutes depending on the text) broken up across the evening or day than a single call. One of my jobs is delivery driving so I'm on the road all night, stopping for a minute or two every half an hour or so. I can send messages then, but I cannot take the time out for a call and by the time I'm finished it's gone 11pm and I'm up at 7pm so I'm not in the mood for a phone call. Don't get me wrong, I like phone calls once I know a guy, and that initial call before I meet somebody from the internet for the first time just to put us both at ease. But it feels quite a demand on somebody's time and a little personal when you don't know somebody, so I'd rather they sent a text until a call was actually arranged, then it's fine. I wouldn't exactly judge a guy negatively if he called, even though I personally find it undesirable, it's not a deal breaker! But my preference is text.
d0nnivain Posted April 14, 2014 Posted April 14, 2014 If you want to stand head & shoulders above all the jerks you call. It's more personal. It shows you are mature & have back bone.
hasaquestion Posted April 14, 2014 Posted April 14, 2014 Out of curiosity, are any of the "rah rah! phone calls!" crowd here under 30? I'm 22 and from what I've seen, the notion of calling someone to set up a first date is almost unheard of. 1
d0nnivain Posted April 14, 2014 Posted April 14, 2014 Out of curiosity, are any of the "rah rah! phone calls!" crowd here under 30? I'm 22 and from what I've seen, the notion of calling someone to set up a first date is almost unheard of. I'm well over 30. But here's the thing, us old folks think you all are hiding behind technology & you are all loosing the ability to interact with other people on a human level. We're advocating that you try it because true person to person interaction is soooooo much better. 2
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