jackstanton Posted April 12, 2014 Posted April 12, 2014 About three months ago I realized that I had fallen in love with my best friend and I told her. At first, she was taken aback, she was not expecting it. In all honesty, neither was I. She told me she needed time to think and for the past several months it has been an emotional roller coaster. She has been hurt very bad in her past and is extremely cautious if not closed off to letting herself be vulnerable again. She told me multiple times of all the things she was worried about, but she told me while her brain was stopping her from giving her heart to me, she also couldnt walk away because she wants this. I tried my best to be as patient and understanding as I could, but I realized that even though she refused to tell me she didnt like me or that she just wanted us to be friends she could not find the strength to be with me. So two days ago I told her that I could not wait anymore, that I cared for her but for my own sanity I needed to move on. But a large part of me is praying she comes back, that she realizes we are meant for each other. I am so confused, do I move on? Do I date others? Is this really how this ends, with no definitive answer from her? Is there a chance she will come back? I feel like I have lost someone who could have made me infinitely happy, but I also lost my bestfriend.
Gaeta Posted April 12, 2014 Posted April 12, 2014 No answer IS an answer. Yes you move on and start dating others. There is a life waiting for you out there, people to meet, experiences to live, don't put it on hold because of someone's indecisiveness. Maybe later down the road you will reconnect but right now it won't happen. 1
Wisecrack Posted April 12, 2014 Posted April 12, 2014 Dude move on and learn from this - 1) Never profess your love to ANY girl 2) Always be meeting new people so you don't get hung up on one. 3) Learn to walk away if things don't work out how you want. You fall for her and you hang around? You are going to never move on as she starts hooking up with guys that drive her attraction up. 4) Youll learn that by being away from her gives you the best chance as you learn to better yourself or move on to better things and people and by time if she wants you, you will have someone better. Don't ever let your happiness be controlled by another person.
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