She met another guy and started completely ignoring me. Hard to cope with.

April 12, 2014

So. Thanks to anyone who reads this.

Here's how my heart got shattered:

Well before a month ago, I was a lonely 17 year old in high school. Life wasn't too bad-- I had ups and downs like everyone else. I had never had a girlfriend, or kissed a girl. Having a girlfriend and someone to care about and love was one of my biggest goals. But I was and still am very introverted and it's difficult to talk to girls.

I got lucky. Or unlucky. I spend a lot of time on the internet since I only have a few real life friends. I started making friends online by doing these group skype calls with a bunch of people. They were really fun. One day there was this cute girl who joined the call. Very shortly, I developed a crush on her. .I don't want to go into too much detail into how it happened, but after talking for about a week, she asked me to be her boyfriend. It was an amazing moment and I was super happy. She lives in New Jersey and I live in Maryland so it became a long distance relationship. We continued talking every night for hours for about a month. She had gone through tough times in life and before she met me, she was broken, but I gave her hope and comfort. She always wanted a boyfriend who actually loved her and someone who cares about her. I became that person for her. In two weeks of talking, she told me she loves me and I told her I love her too. It probably sounds like that love wasn't real. Probably sounds like we were just infatuated. And maybe we were, but there was still tons of chemistry and we made each other so happy.

Things went downhill. The frequency that we talked did decrease a little. It went down to every other night for about two hours. She planned on going to an anime con last weekend. The few days before that, we talked only about half an hour every other night. But we still fell asleep together while in call. These were the only signs at all that she was losing interest in me. In my mind, the relationship was still really strong and I was really really enjoying life. The things she told me throughout our relationship were so sincere and so cute. At the beginning, they were definitely sincere. But near the end of the month, I can't say that she was sincere anymore.

Anways, On the weekend of the anime convention, she didnt text me or call me at all on saturday or sunday. I assumed she was just busy. On monday I started to get really worried. But I eventually eased myself by assuming that she got in trouble or something and her phone got taken away. She still did not contact me at all.

Skip 2 days and it's Wednesday. This was last wednesday. My brother jokingly said that Julie (that's her name) ditched me for another guy. I didnt take it seriously at first, but then I thought about it. And I became terrified. Earlier, she had posted something on her tumblr about her meeting this awesome guy the weekend before and how she wants to spend every moment with him and how he's "SO HOT". When I first saw that, there was no doubt in my mind that the post was talking about me. Even though I met her a month ago and not last weekend, I was still wholeheartedly without a doubt convinced that it was about me. But when I thought about it, I realized it made perfect sense that she left me for another guy. She didnt respond to any of my texts or messages on skype, yet she was still active on tumblr. I still didnt just assume that she ditched me though, not until I got on skype that afternoon and saw that she deleted me from her contacts-----

I was utterly heart broken. I started messaging her on facebook and on tumblr saying how I think she may have left me for another guy. I told her that if that's true, then please talk to me about it.

She ignored me.

I started desperately begging for her to talk to me about it.

I said "please dont do this to me"

She ignored me.

Later that night, (this was actually yesterday), I sent her these long messages in the form of fan mail on tumblr. I told her that I still had very strong feelings for her. I wanted to know where I went wrong. I wanted her to know that I cared about her so much. I told her that she doesnt have to get back with me, i wont try to convince her of that. ANd i told her that I really dont want to lose her and I really want to stay friends at least.

She ignored me. Still didn't say a damn word to me.

And this was all so hard to cope with. If you heard the things she told me and experienced what I did, you would not have guessed that she would just throw it all away so fast. You would not guess that she would just discard my feelings as worthless. Whether or not our relationship was real towards the end, it was definitely sincere and passionate at the beginning. And it still felt that way the whole way through.

Last night, in order to cope, I talked to a few friends about it. I felt only slightly better about it. More than anything, I just wanted to talk to her..

Today at school, I couldn't think of anything else. I thought about letting go. I know it's something I have to do. She eliminated me from her life and nothing I say or do will get her back. So I have no choice but to let go and move on. It's just so hard. Everything reminds me of her. And everytime I think about what she did to me, it's so painful.

Today, I sent her a message. It was with an anonymous tumblr account. I told her that I am the nicest guy she ever met and that what she did to me is the cruelest thing anyone's ever done to me. I told her this would be the last message I'd send her. Then I added that if she ever wants to talk, message me. But I won't message you again unless you do. I told her one last time I'd still like to be friends. And then I said "Good Bye".

Doing that was so painful. But I felt it had to be done if I were to get any sort of closure.

After she did what she did, I lost a lot of hope. And I plunged into loneliness. I sstill haven't kissed a girl. My self confidence isn't great. But that's not why I'm posting this story.

I want to know if anyone can relate to this (many people probably can), and if you do, please share some of your story. Also, how can I quickly and less painfully forget about her and move on? How can I be more confident that I'll still be able to find that special someone?

April 12, 2014

How can I be more confident that I'll still be able to find that special someone?

First, I'm sorry to hear that you got dumped. It sucks. It is something that almost everyone has to go thru. Now you know what all those old blues/country songs are talking about. In a sense, it is good that you got this "out of the way" now. You'll heal overtime and be tougher for it.

As for how you can be confident in your odds? You're seventeen. Not only do you have an eternity ahead of you, you also already had your first relationship at seventeen. You can find dozens of threads of people in their 20's or 30's who have never had what you had. You're ahead of the game compared to some people.

April 12, 2014

Have you met her in person?

April 12, 2014

So. Thanks to anyone who reads this.

Here's how my heart got shattered:
Well before a month ago, I was a lonely 17 year old in high school. Life wasn't too bad-- I had ups and downs like everyone else. I had never had a girlfriend, or kissed a girl. Having a girlfriend and someone to care about and love was one of my biggest goals. But I was and still am very introverted and it's difficult to talk to girls.

I got lucky. Or unlucky. I spend a lot of time on the internet since I only have a few real life friends. I started making friends online by doing these group skype calls with a bunch of people. They were really fun. One day there was this cute girl who joined the call. Very shortly, I developed a crush on her. .I don't want to go into too much detail into how it happened, but after talking for about a week, she asked me to be her boyfriend. It was an amazing moment and I was super happy. She lives in New Jersey and I live in Maryland so it became a long distance relationship. We continued talking every night for hours for about a month. She had gone through tough times in life and before she met me, she was broken, but I gave her hope and comfort. She always wanted a boyfriend who actually loved her and someone who cares about her. I became that person for her. In two weeks of talking, she told me she loves me and I told her I love her too. It probably sounds like that love wasn't real. Probably sounds like we were just infatuated. And maybe we were, but there was still tons of chemistry and we made each other so happy.

Things went downhill. The frequency that we talked did decrease a little. It went down to every other night for about two hours. She planned on going to an anime con last weekend. The few days before that, we talked only about half an hour every other night. But we still fell asleep together while in call. These were the only signs at all that she was losing interest in me. In my mind, the relationship was still really strong and I was really really enjoying life. The things she told me throughout our relationship were so sincere and so cute. At the beginning, they were definitely sincere. But near the end of the month, I can't say that she was sincere anymore.

Anways, On the weekend of the anime convention, she didnt text me or call me at all on saturday or sunday. I assumed she was just busy. On monday I started to get really worried. But I eventually eased myself by assuming that she got in trouble or something and her phone got taken away. She still did not contact me at all.

Skip 2 days and it's Wednesday. This was last wednesday. My brother jokingly said that Julie (that's her name) ditched me for another guy. I didnt take it seriously at first, but then I thought about it. And I became terrified. Earlier, she had posted something on her tumblr about her meeting this awesome guy the weekend before and how she wants to spend every moment with him and how he's "SO HOT". When I first saw that, there was no doubt in my mind that the post was talking about me. Even though I met her a month ago and not last weekend, I was still wholeheartedly without a doubt convinced that it was about me. But when I thought about it, I realized it made perfect sense that she left me for another guy. She didnt respond to any of my texts or messages on skype, yet she was still active on tumblr. I still didnt just assume that she ditched me though, not until I got on skype that afternoon and saw that she deleted me from her contacts-----

I was utterly heart broken. I started messaging her on facebook and on tumblr saying how I think she may have left me for another guy. I told her that if that's true, then please talk to me about it.

She ignored me.

I started desperately begging for her to talk to me about it.

I said "please dont do this to me"

She ignored me.

Later that night, (this was actually yesterday), I sent her these long messages in the form of fan mail on tumblr. I told her that I still had very strong feelings for her. I wanted to know where I went wrong. I wanted her to know that I cared about her so much. I told her that she doesnt have to get back with me, i wont try to convince her of that. ANd i told her that I really dont want to lose her and I really want to stay friends at least.

She ignored me. Still didn't say a damn word to me.

And this was all so hard to cope with. If you heard the things she told me and experienced what I did, you would not have guessed that she would just throw it all away so fast. You would not guess that she would just discard my feelings as worthless. Whether or not our relationship was real towards the end, it was definitely sincere and passionate at the beginning. And it still felt that way the whole way through.

Last night, in order to cope, I talked to a few friends about it. I felt only slightly better about it. More than anything, I just wanted to talk to her..

Today at school, I couldn't think of anything else. I thought about letting go. I know it's something I have to do. She eliminated me from her life and nothing I say or do will get her back. So I have no choice but to let go and move on. It's just so hard. Everything reminds me of her. And everytime I think about what she did to me, it's so painful.

Today, I sent her a message. It was with an anonymous tumblr account. I told her that I am the nicest guy she ever met and that what she did to me is the cruelest thing anyone's ever done to me. I told her this would be the last message I'd send her. Then I added that if she ever wants to talk, message me. But I won't message you again unless you do. I told her one last time I'd still like to be friends. And then I said "Good Bye".

Doing that was so painful. But I felt it had to be done if I were to get any sort of closure.

After she did what she did, I lost a lot of hope. And I plunged into loneliness. I sstill haven't kissed a girl. My self confidence isn't great. But that's not why I'm posting this story.

I want to know if anyone can relate to this (many people probably can), and if you do, please share some of your story. Also, how can I quickly and less painfully forget about her and move on? How can I be more confident that I'll still be able to find that special someone?

Whether you believe this or not, it's better to have known what this dame was truly about and what's she capable of, than to find out after meeting her in person, which you haven't yet. That saved you serious heartache.

This girl was a phony and the same thing she did to you, she'll do to other guys who are in the dark about who she really is as a person. So trust me on this, you're better off.

About the loneliness, we all experience it sometimes or have experienced it at one time or another. The best thing to do to get your mind off of it is to do things that make you happy and to concentrate on them.

Whatever you do from here on out is to not let a girl define your happiness because with that you're putting a lot of pressure on her to live up to your standards and there's no faster way to chase someone off. Good luck.

April 12, 2014

Thanks a lot. After reading through a ton of forums and talking about it more, I've realized that my situation is barely anything compared to what other people have gone through. I've realized that I am better off.

It's still hard. Because everything reminds me of her. And I keep thinking about all the amazing moments we shared. And then I think about how she blocked me on everything and won't even say a word to me.

I am going to move on. I already deleted her from my contacts. But it's going to take me a few weeks to get completely over it.

Everything I read on this site makes me feel a bit better though. Thanks everyone.

April 12, 2014

Have you met her in person?

nope. We wouldn't have been able to meet in person unless we continued to be in a relationship for a few more months. Because in a few months I'll be in college.

While in a relationship with her, I did have doubts. I read a bunch of forums about long distance relationships and about falling in love online. I wanted to know if something like that could ever work. And as it turns out, it can work. I saw stories of people meeting online, doing a long distance relationship for a few months, meeting in person, and eventually getting married, Now that doesn't happen often, but it can. While in a relationship with her, I just hoped for the best. I loved every moment I spent with her so I hoped it would last. I couldn't predict the future but I hoped that i'd be able to meet her in person.

If I did meet her in person, I would have gotten my first kiss, and most likely would have lost my virginity. We did talk openly about sex and talked about how we'd love to cuddle together and kiss. I am glad though, that I never met her in person and did any of that. Part of me thinks that if we met in person, it could have worked out because we could actually touch each other and be with each other everyday. And part of me thinks that if it did work out, it would still eventually fail and the heart break would have been 10 times worse.

Either way... at this point I'm glad it's over and I want to move on. I strangely feel bad that I'm getting over this relatively quickly. The love I felt for her felt real. And we truly did share amazing moments. She however, threw it all away so fast. I won't be able to forget about it that fast, but I don't know.

April 12, 2014

She blocked you because some people are cowards they run instead of facing the guilt they might get when you have to tell someone your true feelings or if they changed, she's young someday she will too feel that sting and realize that is not how you dump people.

Take note on how you feel and never dump someone like this, on the plus side it was a month you too are young, I dont think you've met her did you? When you get a actual gf you may not even count this girl as your first if anything with age you will look back and have a laugh, trust me you are in for a world of realness that will come to you later, real love and real heartbreak and this won't compare.

Im sorry you got dumped tho best wishes.

April 12, 2014

She blocked you because some people are cowards they run instead of facing the guilt they might get when you have to tell someone your true feelings or if they changed, she's young someday she will too feel that sting and realize that is not how you dump people.

Take note on how you feel and never dump someone like this, on the plus side it was a month you too are young, I dont think you've met her did you? When you get a actual gf you may not even count this girl as your first if anything with age you will look back and have a laugh, trust me you are in for a world of realness that will come to you later, real love and real heartbreak and this won't compare.

Im sorry you got dumped tho best wishes.

I agree with this. Truthfully, I would trade the excruciating pain from my 4yr relationship for yours.

April 12, 2014

Ok geez. I get it. I'm immature, I know nothing, I still have a long life to live. My pain is nothing compared to yours. Thanks for helping .-.

April 13, 2014

People are just saying you're young and there's a lot more out there to be hung up on this girl, that's all no one said you were immature, but the reaction comment doesn't prove that wrong ither.

We're just saying that you have a lot more to experience then a crush on a internet girl that you didnt meet and we understand to you the pain is currently great but we're just saying just you wait...you know?

April 13, 2014

Yeah... I'm sorry. I'm just feeling really bitter right now.

April 13, 2014

Your 17. In two months you won't even remember her name because you'll be eyeballing some other girl.

Long distance relationship for the most part don't work. You never met her and you were pledging your love and ready to protect her and you haven't met her yet. Does that make any sense? of course it doesn't.

Move on and find a girl that you can actually see and talk to without the aid of a computer.

April 13, 2014

Yep, a "cyber-relationship" will never last over a relationship where you can physically interact with the person you are interested in. I'd suggest you start trying to find women in real life that you can actually hang out with and kiss.

April 13, 2014

Update: Last night I had a dream about her. It made me remember too much and I've felt like crap the whole day. I thought I was doing well yesterday but right now I just feel so lonely. I used to be able to enjoy being by myself. It's so hard to though. It won't be that easy to find another girl...

April 13, 2014

Kinetic: I'm sorry that you are going through this; we all get broken up with and it hurts like hell every single time. I am hurting right now from a BU, and so I can relate.

But there is some good news. You said that in a couple of months, you will be in college. Trust me on this: There will be SO MANY women there that you will feel like it's Christmas. Believe me. There will women that you will want to hang out with, talk to, party with, fool around with. I know you're hurting now, but I am willing to bet that by mid-October, you will be looking back on this experience with a kind of relief. You will be relieved that you are free to pursue whatever woman you want. And you'll definitely find someone that you want to be with.

Hang in there, stay tough, and look forward to some really good times ahead.

April 14, 2014

It's better to try and get to know people in person.

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She met another guy and started completely ignoring me. Hard to cope with.

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