Mo_Do Posted April 14, 2014 Posted April 14, 2014 As far as me only thinking the date went well that's something I disagree on because the other person said otherwise. But you're right about dating in general, I don't expect much from things but I at least want to know if I should stop talking to the person. I'm not necessarily wondering why they flake but more of was that really why or was it a way of saying maybe we shouldn't see each other anymore. Then you simply don't contact them, they're big girls and know how to get in touch with you. I guess I've just been dating enough lately to know what the subtle signs are, its either a flurry of texts or nothing, which is akin to yes or no. No explanations needed
Author Stay Posted April 14, 2014 Author Posted April 14, 2014 Honestly, I interpret cancelling without offering an alternate day as a polite way of saying "not interested". Go with your gut intuition. Is it saying give her a call? If so, go for it. Better than wondering what if. Exactly what I took it as but I gotta know for sure, it's like when you want to approach a girl but don't then later regret it. So instead you just do it so you'll at least know and feel better. I want to at least know so I can forget about it instead of thinking what if it was this, etc. Then you simply don't contact them, they're big girls and know how to get in touch with you. I guess I've just been dating enough lately to know what the subtle signs are, its either a flurry of texts or nothing, which is akin to yes or no. No explanations needed Maybe, I'm not too experienced with dating but I expect things like this. Personally I'd like to get at least a, "I don't see us working out" but that's asking for much since not everyone is the same. I rather get a bull**** obvious flake than mysterious one, at least then the excuse is so obviously fake that I take it and move on.
FitChick Posted April 14, 2014 Posted April 14, 2014 Most people don't want to hurt someone's feelings so just vanish. I'd prefer someone telling me why so I don't waste time and energy. 1
Author Stay Posted April 14, 2014 Author Posted April 14, 2014 Most people don't want to hurt someone's feelings so just vanish. I'd prefer someone telling me why so I don't waste time and energy. Lets date so you can tell me straight up and I don't waste my energy and time. I kid, but I just wish people would do that. I mean I feel bad about telling a girl that too but I rather let her know I just don't see the connection than telling her I can't make it to the date and leaving this relationship up in the air like that.
HappyLove Posted April 14, 2014 Posted April 14, 2014 Seriously, what's so hard with saying something like 'hi, thanks for the dinner I think your great but we aren't a match and I wish you the best'? People are such cowards now. Most people would appreciate you telling them your not interested than having someone vanish and leaving you wondering for weeks or months! 1
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