STM206 Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 I'm just curious as to your experiences with your breakups. Did the dumper eventually reach out to you? Even if they weren't wanting to reconcile? If so, how long did it take? What was the conversation like? 1
tlegend Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 I'm just curious as to your experiences with your breakups. Did the dumper eventually reach out to you? Even if they weren't wanting to reconcile? If so, how long did it take? What was the conversation like? My ex recently reached out to me. We hadn't talked in approximately 3-4 months. We got together and missed each other's company. I could tell there was still feelings from both of us, but we both also agree that the feelings stem from deeply caring about the other person. In truth, we both realized we that even though we didn't work out and weren't compatible at the time, we still wanted the best for each other and still do. Some could say I'm not over her and just in denial. I would disagree.
Craft81 Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 Throughout the 2 years, she would reach out to me the next day and want to work things out... as long as I apologized to her... even though I did nothing wrong -- she's has BPD and also an alcoholic.. along with other mental issues. But now, we broke up again on March 23, and I'm in Day 19 of NC. Kinda weird.. usually I'd hear from her.. never from me though when it would happen. Though, last time she did this, she deleted my number, and then thought she was texting me by "remembering it" but that number she thought that was mine, it was the wrong number... so maybe she's doing that now. I dunno.. and I don't care honestly. 2
Itspointless Posted April 12, 2014 Posted April 12, 2014 Yes, she reached out almost every month with three sentences informing and wishing me a great time. She was as I found out avoidantly attached, behaviour that became clear when she encountered some really stressful circumstances. She did with me what she was afraid of and she knew that. It is hard to swallow that fear ruined something that was really great. Never had such a amazing connection before, but that person is entirely gone, I am used to that now, but it still makes me sad.
emi Posted April 12, 2014 Posted April 12, 2014 He did reach out, but he didnt want me back. So what is the point? 1
JDPT Posted April 12, 2014 Posted April 12, 2014 Dumper never reached out, why would she? They wanted us out of their lives.
Salvatore85 Posted April 12, 2014 Posted April 12, 2014 Our first break up lasted 6 months before we started talking again and now we've just started talking again after a second, year long break up. In total we were together 5 years. So in my experience and the fact that I can hold a grudge very well, it's completely random.
realfriends Posted April 12, 2014 Posted April 12, 2014 It shouldn't matter. I think you are looking for false hope. Anyways its best if they dont. It'll help you get over it and move on quicker.
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