Author zyketti Posted April 16, 2014 Author Posted April 16, 2014 It's about as good of an idea as jumping out of a plane without a parachute. So what else should I be doing?
Simon Phoenix Posted April 16, 2014 Posted April 16, 2014 So what else should I be doing? Other than trying to contact her? You should be working out, hanging out with friends, rededicating yourself to a hobby, coming up with a new hobby, taking a trip, focusing on yourself. And block her from every form of communication. And if you can schedule different church things -- i.e. going to ones where she's not involved, that'd be better too.
Author zyketti Posted April 16, 2014 Author Posted April 16, 2014 Other than trying to contact her? You should be working out, hanging out with friends, rededicating yourself to a hobby, coming up with a new hobby, taking a trip, focusing on yourself. And block her from every form of communication. And if you can schedule different church things -- i.e. going to ones where she's not involved, that'd be better too. Sorry I guess I should have stated it on my first post. Currently, I am: 1. Working on getting a new job while anxiously waiting for the news from my school 2. Seeing my friends, as well as girls that I kind of neglected during my relationship. Unfortunately, I'm a type of guy that needs to confide in his friends while healing - it gets annoying to my friends after awhile 3. I always workout lol, that is my biggest hobby 4. I have already blocked all forms of communication 5. I stay as far as possible from her if it cannot be helped at church 6. I won't be reaching out to her until I'm ready to face negative consequences...
Simon Phoenix Posted April 16, 2014 Posted April 16, 2014 Sorry I guess I should have stated it on my first post. Currently, I am: 1. Working on getting a new job while anxiously waiting for the news from my school 2. Seeing my friends, as well as girls that I kind of neglected during my relationship. Unfortunately, I'm a type of guy that needs to confide in his friends while healing - it gets annoying to my friends after awhile 3. I always workout lol, that is my biggest hobby 4. I have already blocked all forms of communication 5. I stay as far as possible from her if it cannot be helped at church 6. I won't be reaching out to her until I'm ready to face negative consequences... It's No. 6 that concerns me, and I'm sure others. Why even think about reaching out at all now? She broke it, she needs to fix it if so inclined. And before you rebut with the "but she's so stubborn" argument, save it. If she's stubborn enough to where she won't initiate out of some sort of weird pride/needing-to-be-right thing, then she doesn't truly value you. Don't even think about reaching out right now. Focus on steps 1-5 and move forward. It's up to her to catch up to you -- it's not up to you to stand around like a goon and keep looking back for her.
Sugarkane Posted April 16, 2014 Posted April 16, 2014 Hi I can relate to periods of unemployment (illness) and not being able to find work, despite qualifications (in this economy who hasn't?). It's really difficult not to become depressed, unmotivated and needy. Not sure what to say. If she was that serious about getting married etc, she should've supported you and tried to be there for you. Or else the hypothetical marriage wouldn't have lasted. 1
Author zyketti Posted April 16, 2014 Author Posted April 16, 2014 Hi I can relate to periods of unemployment (illness) and not being able to find work, despite qualifications (in this economy who hasn't?). It's really difficult not to become depressed, unmotivated and needy. Not sure what to say. If she was that serious about getting married etc, she should've supported you and tried to be there for you. Or else the hypothetical marriage wouldn't have lasted. Oh yeah.. It's really hard. I'm either over qualified or underqualified. Right now, I'm really praying and banking on my medschool stuff status at the moment. She did support me for quite awhile; even paying for dates & food. She gave me all the hours she had, even with 3 jobs. I on the otherhand wanted more, and she was frankly going through the same ordeal as I. Her 3 jobs were meaningless to her, and she didn't know what to do with her life. Her stresses & my stresses collided and pushed her away I suppose.
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