RedRobin Posted April 14, 2014 Posted April 14, 2014 (edited) I like a balance. If I have to routinely turn to my female friends to feel nurtured, cared for, and treated with compassion, I see no point in being with that man in a relationship. I can just have ONS and FWB to get needs met that only a man can meet. I feel emotionally sucked dry by so-called macho men who expect me to be the kind, gentle, and flexible one.... while they get to be rude, blunt, and uncompromising... then call that 'manhood'. These days a lot of men hide behind the manhood label to avoid learning how to be emotionally intelligent and mature. It is not being like a woman to treat your partner with consideration, compassion, and gentleness... and to know how to negotiate and compromise so that both people's needs are met. It is not being 'like a man' (as a woman) to want that in return. Edited April 14, 2014 by RedRobin
Woggle Posted April 14, 2014 Posted April 14, 2014 I prefer relationships not to be a power struggle. We are supposed to be on the same side. 3
Author Monm82 Posted August 20, 2014 Author Posted August 20, 2014 I love women who wear the pants, but in a non-domineering kind of way.
WrinkledForehead Posted August 20, 2014 Posted August 20, 2014 We complement each other very nicely and each take charge in different dynamics.
Giggle Posted August 20, 2014 Posted August 20, 2014 My last was completely lead by me. I hated it. It sounded fun to have somebody do whatever I wanted.. But omg it was awful. I had no respect for him. I actually kept pushing him to have an opinion and voice it, but he kept telling me what he thought I wanted to hear.
RoseMadder Posted August 20, 2014 Posted August 20, 2014 I'm the leader in my households, I say households because I run two now my mother is too unwell to run her own. My H is in a managerial position at work, the last thing he wants to do is come home and make MORE decisions. It doesn't bother me, I can happily do both I've always been an "alpha" female and would hate to be in the type of RS I see a lot of my friends in where the male overrides any decision the female makes. I'm very happily married to a gorgeous, 6'4 nerd who'd follow me into hell if I asked him (and has). Would he physically protect me? Of course he would, but he knows that I'm capable of handling myself and making safe decisions. I own an events catering business and some d*ck tried to rob me at knifepoint at a festival a few years back, he must have seen me on my own in my van and thought I'd be an easy target, he didn't count on a ladle of boiling oil in his face though, I doubt he tried anything like that again lol! By TFY's standard I am "manly," hell, show me a successful female who DOESN'T have the attributes he described. I know that not every man will be attracted to that, I know some men would call me a ball breaker, do I care? Not one damn bit 2
Got it Posted August 20, 2014 Posted August 20, 2014 I wonder where all these amazing successful traits became tied to solely to men? My husband and I have a great back and forth. We are both strong capable people so we have a great tag team set up. We utilize each other's strengths and know we can hand things off and the other one will be able to cover it. Why on earth would I want to be in a relationship where only one party was the capable one!?! And like Rose said, some people may call me a formidable. I take it as a compliment. You need to bring your A game with me but I promise you will get mine. I don't see any need to minimize myself for anyone else. That sounds a horribly bad idea. 2
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