elseaacych Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 Hello, all. I am a law student, I have finals in 6 weeks. I am drastically cutting down time that I spend doing things other than study. I have met another law student that I've gone on one date on, about a week ago, and I am interested in getting to know him better, but I don't want to go on multiple hour dates due to wanting to make the best use of time. At the same time, I don't want him to think I am not interested. Haven't chatted with him in a couple of days, though. What should I do?
d0nnivain Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 Make a date to study at the same time. Since you are both in the same boat it will be OK. In grad school, my EX & I used to have lunch together. We'd go to our classes in the morning, have lunch then sometimes we's study together but more often then not, we'd seperate so there were no distractions. 1
kodakgirl Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 Since you are presumably at the same school, it seems like it would be pretty easy to do things like grabbing lunch or coffee together a couple times a week, even if it has to be under an hour. You need to eat anyway, right (and probably caffeinate, too!). That way you can at least have a bit of time together to enjoy each other's company and start to build a connection. Plus, even when you are really busy, it's good to set aside a period of time to NOT do work, even if you have to limit that time. Six weeks isn't that long-- you can use this time to build a foundation and then start to realllllllllly explore it afterwards. I'd recommend having a quick chat to make sure that's both what you want to do, though-- not Super Serious, just making sure you're both cool with approaching things that way (assuming, of course, you are!). Good luck!! 1
Hello_is_it_me Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 Explain to him exactly as you did to us! It's sound reasoning and shouldn't be too oft-putting. He should understand and you can enjoy relatively short dates in the meantime. And of course, put out on the first date.. -for time restraints, of course!!
deathandtaxes Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 Date somebody else that's not going to be a lawyer. Just my two cents.
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