Strength in Healing Posted April 16, 2014 Posted April 16, 2014 (edited) Maybe not solely a hookup. But guys don't take girls on dates because they enjoy the food at the restaurant or love witty banter at 10 pm. NEVER TRUST US Dude... please stop talking. I don't know who you think you represent, but you're only giving a negative impression about yourself. I took plenty of girls on dates to get to know them. Certainly wasn't trying to sleep with all of them or have some devious ulterior motive on the first date.... Edited April 16, 2014 by Strength in Healing 1
BradJacobs Posted April 16, 2014 Posted April 16, 2014 And how delusional is it to hope that when he is "ready," he'll be interested in me? Because that's kinda my plan...lol That is a horrible plan. Keep him as a friend if you want. Maybe he knows some guys that would be good for you? Do not wait for him.
Author missyou123 Posted October 19, 2014 Author Posted October 19, 2014 (edited) Alright I kind of have an update for this. We agreed to be friends, but I decided I wasn’t going to chase him and allow him to initiate contact if he wanted to. The summer goes by, I start dating someone else. And this first guy starts initiating conversation while I’m away in Europe. We message all summer about love, dating and life. He’s been casually dating, but he still doesn’t think he’s ready for anything serious and just having fun meeting new people and I’m still dating my guy. School starts up again (we go to the same university) and we’re still messaging so he suggests we meet up for coffee. Again it went great, we always have stuff to talk about. But I didn’t have any expectations, because I had been dating someone else. Since school has started we have hung out 4 more times. Once at his apartment, he made a cake. Neither of us initiated any contact after that for about 2 weeks, and then he invites me via facebook to a small party at his place…with all his close friends. I go and there are no other girls there that seem like prospects. He spends most of the night next to me and didn’t want me to leave. The next day he texts me saying it was great that I came and that he hope I had fun. I decided it was acceptable at that point to initiate convo later that week saying we should hangout. He invites me out with his friends, and we have a great time. He texted me to make sure I got home okay, and initiated convo again the next day about the night. My gut feeling is telling me that he likes me but wants to take it slow. We get along so great, and I feel a lot of sexual tension. I’m in no rush either, I still am dating my guy, but wait I’m not a horrible person let me explain. We agreed to be exclusive (meaning only having sex with each other) and he made it very clear he doesn’t want an actual relationship, he’s actually leaving in about a month to go travel for x period of time. So I’ve done nothing wrong...me and this guy are just friends anyway. I've actually lost so much interest in the guy I'm "dating" because all it has become is sex...especially the more time I spend with the first guy. I feel so much more like myself with him, and I've really started to like him. So idk what to do...continue taking it slow/being friends or be more forward. He's really not assertive and I feel like he'll never make a move so idk. Edited October 19, 2014 by missyou123
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