rockybb Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 A new way to move on Sharing the way i approached and it will help all...its long but worth First let me introduce myself and situations that was in life.Like everyone.. had a relationship which was great and was lasted for 5 yrs.Was so much in love that she cheated few times and yet forgived her but life says If u realise your mistakes life will change if u dont relations will. So things happened again and relation ends.Was broked cried and u all know we are on the same boat so went through all those things that happens in BU.It ended with Nc rule on dec 2013 and its been 4 months.Now i should feel devasted,missing her and broken dont know what right!!ya actually felt all those too but than it all vanished though not quickly but eventually it did very fast and right now m all in normal state like before and doing progress and enjoying my life the way it is.. How come ?? First of all Writing this things down because the only reason is want to help u people and no other purpose dont want any appreciation or any promotion or anything as such.Only want is u people be and live in peace and wisdom Now lets start with a few truths of life.. There are lot of rules of life but 2 are most imp 1]Karma :- What we give we get it back !! 2]Truth :- Whatever that gives us happiness will also give a pain. Very simple Law 1 ]SO lets take an example of the first one:- If we help others or atleast one soul could be any,we will be happy not from outside but from within.Thats a state called a feeling of blissfulness which will last for a long time and in return if u are expecting from ur good deed than life will bring same joy to u by any means and if not u can just donate the good thing to god.If we hurt someone we will be happy for sure for sometime but the guilt will start killing us and later on the karma will show its side.Simple law isnt it..What u give is what u will get back.. Law 2]So if u got a new phone u are happy for few day or so and suddenly it stops working or something happens the phone will make u sad.Its just a thing still the emotions are very much attachted to it.Now the same thing we loved a person it was awesome and suddenly things did not work out and it ended.It relates to everything with whom u get emotionally connected.It could be from a pen to a person.Isnt it..So Whatever that gives us happiness will also gives a pain Now the method to move on in a practical and scientific way. So assusme u are wounded some place in ur body what will u do??.For sure u gonna apply some medicine on it and it will heal with time.Isnt it.Now the problem is wound is not in ur body that u can see but its within u and more than seeing u are feeling it..and dont know how to heal it!! What to do.. Nc rule and some counselling dont know but did everything still cant overcome her or him.How can u replace that wound which u dont really see.By any means u have to and people do by working for long hrs or committing to another relation or working out.But it is just a painkiller for sometime and than again at night or some sad song starts or a movie scene comes up and we again think about them..Dont worry even i have gone through all this and so u are..Same boat haa !! I called a replacement method.Like replacing or applying a cream on a wound will heal but if left as it is than with time it might heal or it might not!! and if it did will be fully healed ?? First step :- Acceptance so accept it that u are wounded..admit it..if hurted on ur body and ur wounded and if u dont accept it that m wounded than how come it can be fixed and once accepted and if just keep thinking about ur wound still it wont be fixed.Something should be done on it to dissolve that and replace it the way it was before..isnt it Second is forgive and forget Forgive ok but forgetting someone..hahaha u joking.. But..Why dont Replace it with the healer?? Who is the healer..long hrs work,Working out at gym,Crying,Having sex,Falling into another relationship(most often used) and many more..Are they stilled move on..check urself when u sleep in ur dreams u will really know where ur mind is stuck too and also before u sleep check the last person who u rememember?? EX right!! None of the above things will work and if also it does will take a long time and it comes with no gaurentee of lifetime.New BF/GF Not sure if they will be honest..Isnt it! So who is the best healer..Come u all know it.. God and urself.. What does a god's name will do?? It just wont let u feel the pain even if the problems are there but mentally u will be in peace and u will feel that there is someone with me all the time.See the problem is not anywhere in the nature everything is working fine in the nature but it is in ur head and it wil be in peace once heal with gods name.Thats an experience rather than just the words from some book.Try out just for a week.U are already in pain just give a try. Dont run and start begging from anyone for help or do any thing which hurts ur selfrespect. Better know ur seld..Because the love u felt is from within ur self and so is the pain, than why dont u feel the same love and more than that from within and be complete. Once u do it dont think that things will workout the way u want or u will be successful or anything as such by his name or he/she will come back..Nothing will happen such as.Whatever that is going to happen in ur life it will happen good and bad THe Big But The only thing that will happen is the pain and problems that u have in ur life or will have wont affect u.And from within true knowledge will be realised.And by within urself u will be loved and wont be happy or joyful but will be blissful. Now why did i said the 2 laws above..Because the truth is that the attachment to anything will lead to karma and it will than lead to happiness and later that happiness will turn out into pain as nothing is permanant.U know that So how to be unattached Only by a right guru and true knowlege(not from books but from within) u can be unattached.Thats the answer to all ur sufferrings.Not just breakups The Four Noble Truths by buddha The truth of suffering (Dukkha) The truth of the origin of suffering (Samudāya) The truth of the cessation of suffering (Nirodha) The truth of the path to the cessation of suffering (Magga) In Short:= a]The world is filled with suffering b]The origin of suffering is desire and attachment... as because we attached to wrong things..Pain comes..Law 2 c]The third truth is the the possibility of liberation or being non-attachded and desire 4]U can be non-attached by the blessing of guru and the truth from within. Buddha never read a book but it all came from within and we all have the same powr..Its just we are seeking outside rather than inside some of my process that i did to be free..First and foremost u really need a guru without that it is impossible..yes it is impossible.. Whom to make ur guru?? Make ur God your Guru...So jesus will be ur guru or allah or ram or if u follow hinduism than any saint who has abondened 3 qualities(kanchan,kirti and kamini - means Money,Being famous and women)and who has devoted his soul purpose to god and serving others u can make him ur guru..Eg:- sai baba Remember a guru wont give u any materialistic happiness but he will will give u the inner freedom and will help u the break the cycle or birth and death. How do i make him a guru??He is not present physically?? Its just that u dont see dose not mean he is not there.Just from ur heart accept him as ur guru as ur teacher.Dont ask anything from him.Have faith and patience he will give u everything but remember not the materialistic happiness but a self realised mind free from both happiness and pain and will keep u in state of bissfulness. How to feel ur guru and ur god and realise that they are with me?? Very simple thing... u will start seeing the world differently and that it with the power of truth.Thats where u wil know that u are being blessed.And within urself u will be happy and will not attached to things What is the requirement to be with ur guru ?? 2 things...Faith and Patience for whole life towards ur gutu with pure devotion.. How will u know that finally u are attached to ur guru from ur heart?? Its by tears of grattitude of what he has given to u...Give it a time and u will realise it..Eg right now how do u know u are attached to ur bf/gf by the tears of pain..right!! same with guru but it would be tears of devotion and gratitude and all the positive feelings How will u change ?? By his teachings from his books and he will help u out to apply those teachings in ur life.Try not to break it and in starting if broken than be sorry.Its ok as now u are on a path of truth.As in school if we break the rule we are punished..now in the world in which we are..we already have broken so many so are already punished by the karma and now time to realise with truth and change ur self with the help of guru and god. by Law 1 How to work on it? Go to temple,church or any religional place everyday u love.Just go and sit there.Go alone and just be there for sometime atleast 15min seat there.And dont watch the surrounding but ur guru or god only, Now very imp thing U are not where u are physically present but u are where is ur mind is..So in ur mind imagine ur guru.Just start it when u are in any spiritual place.For the time assume u are in church just see jesus or ur guru in ur mind..just picture him and try to be thankful for what he has given to u..Than increase it like seeing him in ur head and heart before u go to sleep.In ur head ur guru and even u are physically in bed all alone but in head ur guru like everynight as like u all do with ur gf/bf when u missing them..Increase it If u do and keep on doing and increasing it u will really find the blissfulness and happiness and the truth within ur self rather than towards any materialistic things or with any other human being Now time to heal..and know the truth of life and over come all ur pain or years and years Before u sleep take a book make some small grids and write ur gurus name...just the name..In india we call as bhakti means prayer of the supreme. Why name why not read some books of knowlege or anything as such.. yes u have to do that but namjapa i:e taking name is also very imp The knowledge of bible and quran and geeta and everything is within u and to get that u have to remember him by his name,Guess that the only source..Like eg u are remembering ur gf /bf by there name and once the name arises in ur head the story with them also begins.Hope u getting it So name writing with a his picture in front of u because u dont have to write his name and remember ur gf/bf..but u too see him ur head rather than just on paper..Remember u are where ur mind is not ur body is...One page a day and increase one page everyday.So today one tomom 2 and after than 3 and goes on. Which books to read and for how long? Read ur gurus books so if ur guru is jesus read bible atleast 1 page a day...no matter whatever happens and try to learn from it and apply it in ur life..the rest leave it on ur guru Do this much..with 100 assurity if did this way u will be in a state of blissfullness rather than happiness and feeled with love all the time without any outside help ever needed with a positive vibe and true freedom.Because thats we all are seeking its just outside rather than inside. Now Wont reply to any of ur questions or anyhing as such because more often than looking for answers start experiencing.Like when u are in pain did u asked question about how to get in pain its just u got and no matter how many pages of fourms u read u still will be.. untill u urself wont remove it by ur experience..Remember all the answers will come only if u just do it.It takes a time but a faster and best route ever. Take care and be in peace...Please dont ask questions better know the answers by experiencing it..
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