Grendelsmom Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 Iv broken up with him for about 4 months now. i had weak moments and i called him because i couldnt take it anymore. he seems nice everytime, always polite, asking me about my health etc but he never makes an attempt to reach out to me directly. i can also see the activity of another girl on his FB profile, she leaves links and pictures on his wall and he responds with kissey smileys. i asked him about her, and he denied that he was seeing her. i know i should move on..but here is my problem he updates his status with lines of poems and songs that i used to like... songs that talk about broken heart and sadness, but when i call him hes a different person. i also wanted to apologise for my mistakes and asked him if we could meet, to which he said yes... but he never fixed a date.. and hasnt called ever since.. do you think he must have moved on? is he just playing with my feelings?
elseaacych Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 (edited) Do not speculate about your ex's actions, because what you could come up with in your wildest fantasy could be very far from the truth. What matters is that you have broken up with him. The relationship is over. Finito. So the ball is in your court for what you want to do, because this is the thing you instigated by breaking up with him. Ask yourself. Do you want to get back together? If you have even the slightest doubt that you do, don't bother, because you have to be 100% willing to commit to the relationship. Then you have to apologize and tell him under no uncertain terms that you made the biggest mistake of your life. You have to ask, and not beg. "Look, [ex's name]. I've done a lot of thinking lately. I've made a lot of mistakes in the past few weeks/months, and the biggest one was breaking up with you. I am so sorry for all of the pain I've caused you. I want to try again with you. Again, I am so sorry. Can you find it in your heart to forgive me and give me a second chance?" If the answer is no, or anything less than 100% yes, leave your ex alone. Block him on all social media. Delete his phone number, kill all lines of communication with him. As far as he is concerned, you don't exist, and he doesn't exist to you. Do not talk to him unless you are 100% committed to asking for a second chance and giving everything you've got to make the second chance work. Even so, he may not be interested. At that point you gotta move on. This is all on you, honey. Remember, you broke up with him for a reason (or reasons), so it's better that you just move on. Edited April 11, 2014 by elseaacych 1
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