Zomboy Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 (edited) This could be a long-winded post, so sit your sweet *** down, grab a coffee and get comfy!! I honestly didn't know where to post this so I decided to post it here. I'm a 20 year old male, and my girlfriend is 19. We've been together now for 4+ years (4 years, 5 months and 11 days to be exact! ). Our relationship has been flawless imo, up until a couple of months ago... She got a new FT job that she loves, which is great! But since then I've noticed some change... Since shes had this new job, she's been going out to clubs/bars EVERY Friday night on a 'girls night out' with one of her new work mates and gettimg hammered. (she rarely used to go out to clubs etc before) Now, I don't have a problem with her going out to clubs and bars with a friend. I know ALL women need their freedom and just want to have fun with their friends, and I dont have a problem with clubs or anything like that, I totally trust her 100%! I just think its unnecessary to go out EVERY Friday night. Id say every other weekend would be fine if you're in a long-term relationship.. is that wrong of me? I don't know, but that's why I need to see what other people think! The main issue that's bothering me so much is because we don't live together and both work FT in the week I only get to see her on the weekends. If I try to initiate any sex on the weekend, I get shot down and told 'Im too tired'. I hardly think that's fair, she could totally avoid feeling tired by not going out as much as she does! I've tried talking to her about it, but I then get told that all I care about is sex.. That really hurts me, because its really not! But sex is part of a relationship, and im getting shot down every weekend by her! Tbh, I don't know where to go from here I don't want to say she cant go out every weekend, because I don't want her to get the impression im trying to control what she does. Please leave your opinions on this! Thanks. Edited April 11, 2014 by Zomboy
a0009 Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 There are red flags on how she is behaving. She is 19 therefore she is not mature and she wants to have fun and experience. Going out clubbing is not bad but going out every Friday when the only time you two have is the weekend is a red flag. She says she is tired for sex, meaning you are not worth the the time being extra tired for. try massaging her at night and try morning sex. You should also have low expectations in this relationship now onwards if this continues
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