Liloush Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 Hi, It´s been long since I´ve dated anyone and now a friend from years ago has resurfaced in my circle. In the mean time there is a new man Ive been on a few dates with. Both belong to my church. In my church once you decide who you will date long term, this should usually lead to marriage. Im at a age where I want to settle down, Ive been alone for a very long time. The guy from the past used to be crazy about me and is currently single, I also know he wouldnt mind reconnecting again. I dont want to lead anyone on so Im scared to reach out. If I would compare the two guys I would come up with: 1. the old friend: great connection, kind, honest, financially stable, reliable, looks out for my well being first, extremely tall and lanky average looking face and so overall not attractive at all. 2. the new guy: ok connection, financially not well off, not the altruistic type, but attractive. What´s the wisest choice. Im mid 30´s waited for the perfect guy and the perfect connection only to find out perfect was not meant for me. Both are interested in me. Who should I invest my time in and go for?
David87 Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 None of them. Find a new guy and focus only on him. 2
Soursoupz Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 if you have to ask its not a choice of the heart. it sound more like "where can i invest my money so i can be a millionaire". lol.sad what about stop putting such a heavy weight on the have to date thing. and just socialize with them and others also in groups so you can get to know them, and let both know that you just want to get to know them. 2
David87 Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 When the right person comes into your life you'll know for sure( it will feel right and natural ) and you wont be put in a situation like this where you have to choose one of them. 1
Hello_is_it_me Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 1. the old friend: great connection, kind, honest, financially stable, reliable, looks out for my well being first, extremely tall and lanky average looking face and so overall not attractive at all. 2. the new guy: ok connection, financially not well off, not the altruistic type, but attractive. This is a good example of how far good looks can take a guy. Poor bachelor #1 lol. 1
Chocolat Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 Hi, It´s been long since I´ve dated anyone and now a friend from years ago has resurfaced in my circle. In the mean time there is a new man Ive been on a few dates with. Both belong to my church. In my church once you decide who you will date long term, this should usually lead to marriage. Im at a age where I want to settle down, Ive been alone for a very long time. The guy from the past used to be crazy about me and is currently single, I also know he wouldnt mind reconnecting again. I dont want to lead anyone on so Im scared to reach out. If I would compare the two guys I would come up with: 1. the old friend: great connection, kind, honest, financially stable, reliable, looks out for my well being first, extremely tall and lanky average looking face and so overall not attractive at all. 2. the new guy: ok connection, financially not well off, not the altruistic type, but attractive. What´s the wisest choice. Im mid 30´s waited for the perfect guy and the perfect connection only to find out perfect was not meant for me. Both are interested in me. Who should I invest my time in and go for? #1 deserves better than someone who is lukewarm. You obviously don't like either of them enough or you wouldn't be asking strangers on a forum to help you choose. p.s. #1 sounds like a great guy who deserves better than someone who is lukewarm. 1
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