OwlGal Posted April 10, 2014 Posted April 10, 2014 English is not first language so please forgive grammatical errors. I am from france. When i was 14 i met a boy online in a french-english chatroom. We begin to talk and at first we were just trying to help each other improve in our linguistic skills. He is a year younger then me. After a while we became friends. And then more then friends. Not quite dating but i felt a very strong connection to him. We got along extremely well. I came to America on holiday with my family and met him. We only spent two days together but it was magical. He took my virginity. It was so great that i came to stay in america for a year against my families wishes. Tehy are very strict and want me to stay at home until i marry a man of their choosing. But i convinced them to let me travel solo. This past year with him has been great. We are young, 19 and 20. But i think we are in love. We have both admitted that we don't quit know what love is supposed to be but we get along great. We are like two peas in a pod. He is just sweet and romantic enough while still being manly which i adore. He is ambitious and makes very good money considering his age. He is generous, he not only helped me to get a job here so that i could get a work visa but he hasn't asked me to spend my funds on anything since i've been here. He pays for everything and all i have to do is shop:love:. He is also very tall and gorgeous. And he knows how to perfectly control me in bed. I have only had sexual intercourse with him but i feel no attraction to other men. I don't even want to try it with anyone else because with him it is magic. But in june it will be time for me to go back to france. I do not know when i will be able to come back again. He is very upset over this. He wants me to stay in america against my families wishes. He has even proposed marriage. He says it will only be so that i can get a visa, and that if i decide that i want to leave him and go home after the fact he won't contest it. He also says that once he can make his company self sufficient or something that he will move with me to france. I'm not quite sure how to say it because i don't know much about business but he means once his company is able to make money without him being in america. I want to stay. Although i miss home and my family i think i love him. I am not sure what "love" is but i know i feel stronger for him then for anyone else. But i know my family will never approve and they will always be angry with me for this choice. Once they meet him i know they will understand. But for the time that i am here i will be hated. It makes me so upset because i do not know which to choose. He is pressuring me not to go which is not like his behavior at all so i can tell that he is really hurting over this.
d0nnivain Posted April 10, 2014 Posted April 10, 2014 Pick your family. You can make an LDR work but you will have to put in effort. If he's unwilling to do that, there is no way you two can make a marriage last. How would you live? If you are meant to be you will survive the years & the miles. Making a snap / rash decision now won't help anybody.
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