maybeimtheone Posted April 10, 2014 Posted April 10, 2014 is it possible? With a new girl or even a girl you have been seeing? what are the tips? Just lay back a bit and show that it's not the normal you?
Jethro Posted April 10, 2014 Posted April 10, 2014 Usually new romantic prospects are very quick to judge. You don't know each other real well yet. If you acted too clingy it may be hard to convince them differently.
d0nnivain Posted April 10, 2014 Posted April 10, 2014 Downshifting will be the most effective. Take a step back when you find yourself being clingy, or preferably before you act on it.
J21 Posted April 10, 2014 Posted April 10, 2014 Depends on the person and how much they like you. You get a little more slack if they have high interest in you, but u can burn through that pretty quick too depending on what sorta clingy behavior you did.
Author maybeimtheone Posted April 10, 2014 Author Posted April 10, 2014 Depends on the person and how much they like you. You get a little more slack if they have high interest in you, but u can burn through that pretty quick too depending on what sorta clingy behavior you did. if you been together awhile..just back off?
J21 Posted April 10, 2014 Posted April 10, 2014 if you been together awhile..just back off? Didnt u mention in the first post its a new girl? "Or even a girl you've been seeing" still has a relatively new-ish implication. Like I said, it probably depends on what u did and how much shes interested in you. IE: blowing up her phone vs texting twice when she didnt respond to the first. She's crazy about you vs shes lukewarm about you. If you've been together a while and shes crazy about u, I dont think the clinginess will hurt u as much... if u hardly know her I'm thinking it'll take a toll. Again, her interest level in you and what u did will really determine if u can make a recovery or not. Good luck
WrinkledForehead Posted April 10, 2014 Posted April 10, 2014 I'm high maintenance and needy. The key for me was that I ended up finding someone who could handle that, who liked me enough from the start to take me in stride, and has his own levels of maintenance and neediness. The essential key is embracing what *you* want and need and who you are. What some perceive as needy will be normal for some others. Find yourself and your interests and passions and don't let those drop in favor of another person.
preraph Posted April 10, 2014 Posted April 10, 2014 Once it's done with a particular person, you can't do anything to rectify it that isn't as equally pathetic. But you can change for the future. And if it all seems really foreign to you and you have trouble imagining it any other way, go get some feedback from a psychologist and maybe get to the root of it. It won't change you overnight but once you're aware, over time, you can work on it and be happier. A friend of mine found out through therapy that she was a gift giver (always buying people little things) because beneath her socially savvy exterior, she was actually insecure enough she felt she needed added insurance to make herself socially bulletproof. It was an insight that did help her realize her own worth, after some thought.
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