KaliLove Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 Because that's the difference between roommates or friends and being a fully connected couple. I don't necessarily agree with this. There are other people out there like her who have low or no sex drive..that doesn't mean they're not connected as a couple. It's just that she needs to find someone whose sex drive matches hers.
Nimbus4dt Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 Sex, to me, is the ultimate sign of passion and love you can give someone you love. You allow them to explore your body...your temple, if you will... and in order to do so, you grant them an immeasurable amount of trust. Sure....sex is sex when you're young. But making love to someone you're absolutely in love with.... you'll never find anything more intimate and passionate. Ever. My 2 cents. (Yes, I would end a relationship if we weren't on the same sexual schedule.) Couldn't have put it better myself, went out with a lady who had a very very low sex drive, just wasn't into it. Reckoned that sex twice a year was sufficient, thought I needed to compromise, did but it never lasted as was crawling the walls. I think you need to communicate it to him, some like a lot of sex and others don't hence why we're all different!!!! Good luck
CaliBabe Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 As a woman in a VERY similar work schedule such as yourself you need to ask yourself if it is really the dead sex drive due to how much you have on your plate or if you really aren't into your boyfriend. Now hear me out... Would you be okay losing your boyfriend over your lack of sexual drive? Would you be okay losing someone you could potentially spend your life with? Have you really thought about now having him in your life? The wonderful nights you spend together, the times you go out and cuddle, watch tv, etc etc... That is him putting in effort. I am sure there are times where he is willing to do things for you whether it be watching a movie, going to a restaurant you like... These are things he does for you. You should WANT to give him the same in return. I'm sure you could muster up a nice blowjob if you don't want to have full on sex. There are so many creative ways to please a man and make it fun for yourself also. Have you tried role playing, dressing up for him (it could be empowering and make you feel sexy about yourself - which is always a confidence booster), have you both visited a sex store together? Trust me, I own a business and also help work for my family business. I have ZERO time to myself, but I will however make my relationship a priority also because what good is everything you are working for if you have no one special to share it with? So although I am feeling completely depleted at the end of the day, I WANT to make my man happy because it makes me happy in return. I want him to enjoy being with me in all aspects. You really sound like you are not into your boyfriend at all. Sex with the one you love is such a special feeling, it is a privelege and should not be treated as a chore. Break up with the poor guy. Let him find happiness, even if that is not with you. 3
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