SilverSoul94 Posted April 10, 2014 Posted April 10, 2014 Hello, and to anyone reading this, thank you. Essentially, my girlfriend of close to a year broke things off with me about a month ago. We were a semi-long distance couple... I had known her since high school, and she was a best friend, but we now go to college in different states. As a result, I only routinely see her four months out of the year. I guess I should mention both of us had been in love before, and both with partners who cheated on us. Anyway, up until the breakup, she seemed perfectly happy. Then, on the first weekend of March, everything changed. She avoided me the entire weekend, until finally we finally broke up. She claimed that she lost her feelings for me all of a sudden, and that she just needs space to deal with other things in her life. She insisted that I am "the perfect boyfriend," and that I did nothing wrong. I should note that she suffers from Depression and receives anxiety attacks often, and has just recently started counseling. Despite the abruptness of her decision, she is not hopeful her feelings will return, but thinks maybe we can try again this summer if she feels up to it. My guess is around late July/early August, when she will return from a month of studying abroad. For now, I'm just giving her space. That was over a month ago. I have been successful in ignoring her occasional text, often wishing me goodnight or good morning, but something happened yesterday, on my birthday. She sent me a standard, "Happy birthday" text in the afternoon. But that night, she sent me another asking me to talk to her to ensure her that "I'm still alive." Now, I'm not sure what to do. I'm not trying to be spiteful in ignoring her, I'm just trying to heal myself. If she truly wanted me back, she would just tell me, right? She's the one who wanted space... And I'm rather proud of myself for maintaining NC, so I shouldn't ruin that. What would be the best course of action, causing the least pain? Again, thank you.
Poppyolive Posted April 10, 2014 Posted April 10, 2014 Yah...I'd leave it, don't respond. Keep going you're doing great.
Lifegoezon Posted April 10, 2014 Posted April 10, 2014 Keep going. Not your job to make her feel better about dumping you. You should block her number if you can though. If you feel like it you could send a single text specifically stating that you don't want her to contact you and you will not reply again - there's a good example in the Cali/Tara NC guide. But if that sparks a load of questions you then have to be strong about staying silent.
David87 Posted April 10, 2014 Posted April 10, 2014 Don't break NC, it isn't worth it. If you think about it you're doing exactly what she wanted...
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