Jdlucke Posted April 10, 2014 Posted April 10, 2014 I'm 23 and my ex girlfriend is 21. I had been dating my ex for about a year and a half. During our relationship, i discovered that she was a Jehovah's Witness, but not a very serious one. About a year ago, her family finally found out about us and shunned her, and her congregation disfellowshipped her, cutting her ties from the community she loved. Because of this, our next year of the relationship was hard, because she was forced to move out of her parents house and in with some friends. The separation from her family ate at her daily. During this time, she began studying the bible again, as did I, though i considered myself an Agnostic, but wanted to support her (albeit lightly). We never really argued or fought during our time together, and really just had a loving, happy, open relationship. But as time grew, so did the damage she felt from not having her family. We had been discussing possible solutions on getting her back into being a witness and not losing me, so we decided to go on a break in mid February. The break was only suppose to last for a month so she could reunite with her family while she worked her way back into becoming a witness. Then we were suppose to slowly get back together. But, things changed. After about a month her feelings towards me grew rather cold, whenever i would make contact with her she kept telling me that we couldn't talk, despite how badly she wanted to. During this time, i also took the liberty of pursuing becoming a witness myself, though its still a work in progress(for my beliefs, not for her). I did hope that this would make it easier on us, but since im becoming a witness, she said we really couldn't talk since she would be bad for me. However, she did admit that its the only true way we could be together again. We've been slipping up and contacting each other, (mostly me calling her) and last week she deleted her facebook and blocked my number, i did reach out to her about this via my sisters phone and she explained that we really couldnt talk anymore and that she's working on herself because she doesn't know what she wants anymore, other than drawing closer to Jehovah. I'm not sure what to do. We will see each again in about a month at a Jehovah witness assembly, but i dont know if that will help. The sudden change in her frightens me and she says she feels terrible for causing me this pain. Will time without contact cause her to figure out herself and want me again?
Trovador Posted April 10, 2014 Posted April 10, 2014 Let her be, my friend... someday you will find a woman who won't impose her beliefs on you (regardless if you really want to convert to them) and won't put her religion before you... there is a fine line between beliefs and fanaticism and I think your ex is tending toward the latter... But who are we to judge her? She obviously is happier with her church, so my advice is let her to stay in it... above all, don't betray your own beliefs for earthly benefits, be it romance, work, fame... Don't please use No Contact as a strategy to win her, use it for your own good... 1
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