johndail Posted April 10, 2014 Posted April 10, 2014 Me and my ex broke up almost a year ago just because we weren't getting along. We dated for about eight months. Since then a lot has changed with both of us. Last weekend we had a mutual friend in town and ended up hanging out with each other and friends friday and saturday night and had a good time. Then Sunday I ended up asking her if she wanted to go to a movie. We ended up going and afterwards we went out to eat. The entire time it wasn't awkward, we both had a blast. Ended up texting her after i got back home and told i had a good time and that I'm going to hold her to what she said about us going and seeing the new spiderman movie. She responded back and said that it was a lot of fun and that she is looking forward to going to the movie. Well here is my question...how do i go about this...mind you that the new spiderman movie doesn't come out for another month...i mean after writing it i see that i still have feelings lingering around for her. I just don't want to make anything awkward between us. I haven't talked to her since Sunday night and just really don't know what to say I guess. So do I bite the bullet and send a text or what
AtTheStart Posted April 10, 2014 Posted April 10, 2014 Ok without knowing ANYTHING about your breakup... Typically enough time has passed where what is in the past is in the past. Hopefully you're both different and better people now. Do not talk about the past relationship and/or problems, if she ever brings it up then you can address them...mostly just let her feel like she's being LISTENED to not heard. But ultimately let it be known that you feel like "hey, these were mistakes made, BUT that's the past...Im happy right now in the present!" Whether that's true or not, project it. Now you're not even there yet. If it's meant to be then it's meant to be...go on living your life, being sexy, and having fun. DO NOT...do not do not do not....initiate contact with her until that movie comes out, and AFTER that movie comes out, ideally it'll come out..she'll know it's come out....wonder why you haven't texted about it...but that's what creates the new mystery about you. You should have a lot of stuff going on so aren't counting down the days until that movie comes out. A week or so after it's out you casually say, "hey, I just noticed that spiderman is out. Want to go?" If yes, then set a day. DONT confirm it, leading up to the day, after the day is set. Screams insecurity. She needs to chase you. Women are emotional beings. Now after this. Don't be taking her to any more movies. Anyone can go to a freaking movie. So if you want her, don't do **** she'd do with her friends. Create exciting opportunities for attraction and excitement to build. Ideally, you'll be letting her do the initiating/ contacting. You have to project that you're exciting, busy, and hey can make time for her here & there. You're not in a relationship anymore so initially encounters between you two should maximize excitement. At the end of the night say, "wow I had a blast!" then DONT try to set up another time. It should be that you have blasts with many people and are being sexy.
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