Confusedbylove Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 I know its been said a lot on this forum, but going no contact from your ex is an absolute must. Three and half months being broken up, and doing no contact since the middle of January and I feel really great. Yes I still think about my ex from time to time. I don't let it bring me down though, I don't get depressed or sad if I have a thought about her. I think of those thoughts as memories, beautiful memories that I will never forget. I had the time of my life dating my ex. She was my first girlfriend, and I was her first boyfriend it was really awesome. Doing no contact is a slow process, it truly takes time for you to heal from your breakup. The phrase "time heals all wounds" is gospel for healing from breakups. For me it being my first breakup, it was very tough to move on and let go. I did want to get back together with her, I thought we could eventually but the more I think about it, it just isn't a good idea for me to get back together with her. She moved on very early, and I am slowly moving on myself. I know for 100% certainty that I will find someone to fall in love with. I think we gave each other hope by us dating. She has moved on with someone else, and I am moving on right now single and i'm OK with that. When you are on the receiving end of a breakup, its a call to action that you need to figure yourself out. It's an opportunity to dissect yourself, and figure out really why your relationship ended. That's what I did and its helped me close that chapter of my life. I probably will never hear from her, why we really broke up and thats OK I probably don't want to. I figured it out myself, and will make sure I don't lose a future relationship because of it. One day at a time! 9
Trovador Posted April 10, 2014 Posted April 10, 2014 Sometimes is not the fault of the dumpee, but I get you... a break up is a chance to grow and improve, a call of duty if you will... Great post! 1
arghzme Posted April 10, 2014 Posted April 10, 2014 I hope to be posting something similar about a month from now. Your story is really inspiring, man. I know the feeling when you just break up with out there being a reason. It is just sad. Adds to the misery. We will all be better men soon, and our next partners will be extremely lucky, thanks to our past. 1
Brutus Posted April 10, 2014 Posted April 10, 2014 Hope to get there too, one day. I wish I had figured out earlier many things I now understand, and did not lose her. But I did, and your words are wise. Congrats for the achievement.
PS.chicago Posted April 10, 2014 Posted April 10, 2014 She has moved on with someone else, and I am moving on right now single and i'm OK with that. Exactly. You show a lot of strength by saying that. Especially, the fact that she was your first girlfriend. Most guys struggle with this. Sounds like you've really internalized your feelings in a positive way and ready to move on. Best of luck!
love_pink Posted April 14, 2014 Posted April 14, 2014 Great, motivating post! Thank you for this and I wish you the best! :-)
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