SummerAngel Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 Hi! The last three months have been pretty much the low point of my life. I went to rehab in January for prescription pill addiction, graduated successfully, and am currently back at my parents house after having two relapses. I have been married for nine years, together for 11 with my husband, and have twin 2-year-old boys. We are currently on a break. We talk on the phone usually every night and are trying to keep things friendly for our sons. We are currently in marriage counselling. We have gone once, and it was more of an introduction session. I am confused about how I feel. There are a few things I am not happy about. First, we have horrible conflict resolution skills. When we have a fight, my anxiety gets going and I repeat myself, which sets him off. He will either ask me to stop, and often I won't. Then, he gets backed into a corner and will start calling me names, saying harsh things, or even physically abusing me. Also, I am not happy with our financial situation. I have been the breadwinner for nine years, with financial help from my parents which I want to stop. Now, I am living in their house though. He works 30 hours a week in a home health care job and I am wishing he would get a full time job with 3 12 hour shifts or 5 8 hour shifts. Lastly, we don't have an intimate relationship. He won't sleep with me because he's 'scared I'll get pregnant'. I need more affection and more sexual intimacy. Anyways, those are my feelings on the whole thing. Has anyone else been through this before? I would love your experience or input. Thanks, SA
Trovador Posted April 10, 2014 Posted April 10, 2014 Sorry about your situation. You and your husband should visit the marriage counselor more frequently... the only experience I can share with you is that time and distance make people appreciate what they have... maybe this break will put things in perspective for both of you... Good luck to your family!
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