brandon26003 Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 I have been frustrated with the dating process for a while now. I can never find what I am looking for and it seems like I'm always used as a rebound. Yes the sex that comes with being a rebound is great, but it's not the only thing that I'm looking for. I would ultimately like to find the one. I started talking to this girl on a dating app. I am 33 and she is 27. She is attractive and is educated. The thing that got me wondering is she told me, without me inquiring, that her last relationship ended a year ago and that she consciously made the decision to not rush into dating as she needed time to heal. She now feels like she is able to start dating again. That relationship was 5 years. I'm a little more optimistic about this one because she took that time to heal. She seems like a genuinely nice woman and is actually looking for something long term. The only thing I'm worried about would be taking things too fast or too slow. I've been burnt so many times by women who were not truthful about their intentions and only used me as a rebound. It seems like nothing I do works. We are going to meet this Saturday for our first date. Wish me luck. 4
martaldn Posted April 9, 2014 Posted April 9, 2014 Good luck and keep us posted! Wish u all the best!
deathandtaxes Posted April 10, 2014 Posted April 10, 2014 Beginning are always fun! A one year time since her LTR should be long enough to get over that relationship. She could be the one. It might not survive one date. Don't make this first date any more than it is. Good luck! 1
Author brandon26003 Posted April 14, 2014 Author Posted April 14, 2014 Hey everyone. We went out on the date and had a great time. This is definitely one of the most promising first dates I've ever had. I was presently surprised when I met her outside of the restaurant. She looked better in person than she did in her pictures. We sat down, ate, and had great conversation. After we had dinner and a few drinks, I saw my opportunity. My back was to a television and I moved over to her side of the table to "be able to see the TV"...Well atleast, that's what I told her . As soon as I sat next to her it just felt natural for me to put my hand on her leg. On previous dates with other women, I had to talk myself into contact and it felt awkward. I wing as shocked because I did it without even thinking about it. Soon after she grabbed my hand and held it. As time went on she put her head on my shoulder. I also kissed her on the top of her hand, her cheek, forehead, and got a few on the lips. As we were leaving I noticed her putting on chapstick. I think she was getting ready for what was about to happen. We made out for about 2 minutes before she left. It just felt so right. Since last night she has called my babe and hun in text messages. I just feel elated because there was definitely a connection. I'm definitely looking forward to seeing how this turns out. So far so good!!!
Stay Posted April 14, 2014 Posted April 14, 2014 Great that you had a really good time but babe and hun after the first date? I'm a little worried for you now. Also you saying she could be the one, this is a either a very bad mixture with her or it's going to turn out very good.
endlessabyss Posted April 14, 2014 Posted April 14, 2014 Glad you had a great time, but I'd wait until a couple more dates till I'd consider her to be "the one". Hope all works out, and be careful of rushing into things too quickly. Don't want to get your hopes up too soon. 1
Author brandon26003 Posted April 14, 2014 Author Posted April 14, 2014 . Also you saying she could be the one, this is a either a very bad mixture with her or it's going to turn out very good. I would be more concerned if I said that she definitely is the one after just one date. Could she be the one? I won't know for a while but feel that this is definitely promising.
Stay Posted April 14, 2014 Posted April 14, 2014 I would be more concerned if I said that she definitely is the one after just one date. Could she be the one? I won't know for a while but feel that this is definitely promising. Like perviously stated, you saying she could be the "one" is just as bad as her calling you babe/hun. You don't know anyone's true self until 1-2 years of being with them. Please refrain from thinking like that or else you're just going to get tremendously hurt.
Author brandon26003 Posted April 14, 2014 Author Posted April 14, 2014 I never said that she is the one. I posted in the form of a question by saying; "Could she be the one?" One can normally tell after one date if there is potential for something long term. That's where I'm at at this point. Great first date and saw the potential. Now we go from here and see how everything goes.
Stay Posted April 14, 2014 Posted April 14, 2014 I never said that she is the one. I posted in the form of a question by saying; "Could she be the one?" One can normally tell after one date if there is potential for something long term. That's where I'm at at this point. Great first date and saw the potential. Now we go from here and see how everything goes. I know, I never said you said that either but like I and a few others on this thread said thinking that she could be is too much for a first date already, you thought that before you even went on the first date as a matter of fact. You can tell yourself otherwise but we're just trying to help you refrain from thinking like that since it's just gonna hurt you more later if it doesn't work out. The beginning is great and always have the best feelings but thoughts of being the one is far from what should be on your mind right now. Thinking she could be the one is bad, saying she is the one at this point is just creepy and overboard. So it's good that you didn't say she's the one but thinking she could be is 2nd to the worst thing imo. It's good that you both hit it off, just leave it at that and stop thinking too far ahead, at least for now.
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