WP4046 Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 The fact that she was already at your place means you two should end up at a restuarunt if you choose to. By her already laying on your bed and making out going out in public is optional IMO
Author ktya Posted April 11, 2014 Author Posted April 11, 2014 The fact that she was already at your place means you two should end up at a restuarunt if you choose to. By her already laying on your bed and making out going out in public is optional IMO Thats what I was thinking actually. If she was comfortable enough with me after the date to come to my house, go straight to my bed (I asked her where she wanted to hang out, bedroom or living room - she said either way so of course I chose the bed) make out for an hour, lick my chest all over and kiss my nipples... You'd think that a date in public would be optional too. Its entirely her right to keep on holding out on the sex or even to refuse going back to the bedroom if I had her over for dinner or even to keep the kissy kissy to a minimum. Thats why the fact she was everything but demanding to go out to dinner came across to me as offensive. It seemed to me like a way to get me to shell out money. I was offering to COOK her dinner which you would think would be a far more thoughtful situation whereby she could most definitely get to know me better. It takes time to cook, and she could see more of the real me than she'd ever get to see in a restaurant. Plus there'd be no hot lesbian waitresses there trying to chat me up during the date like last time.
Hello_is_it_me Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 Thats what I was thinking actually. If she was comfortable enough with me after the date to come to my house, go straight to my bed (I asked her where she wanted to hang out, bedroom or living room - she said either way so of course I chose the bed) make out for an hour, lick my chest all over and kiss my nipples... You'd think that a date in public would be optional too. Its entirely her right to keep on holding out on the sex or even to refuse going back to the bedroom if I had her over for dinner or even to keep the kissy kissy to a minimum. Thats why the fact she was everything but demanding to go out to dinner came across to me as offensive. It seemed to me like a way to get me to shell out money. I was offering to COOK her dinner which you would think would be a far more thoughtful situation whereby she could most definitely get to know me better. It takes time to cook, and she could see more of the real me than she'd ever get to see in a restaurant. Plus there'd be no hot lesbian waitresses there trying to chat me up during the date like last time. Chick is all over the place. The whole initial "I'm a good girl and don't like to take it too fast" or w/e she claimed while simultaneously initiating the sexting herself... No more applying logic with this one.
atlg8r Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 I love how when a woman wants to casually date she is exercising her sexual freedom but when a guy wants the same thing he's a pig. This girl responded to an OLD profile that was clearly written that I wanted to keep things casual because I've spent 17 years in serious long term committed relationships. Casually dating is not the same as sleeping with multiple women at the same time and expecting another one to join your harem. Further, your whole attitude toward women sucks.
atlg8r Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 Chick is all over the place. The whole initial "I'm a good girl and don't like to take it too fast" or w/e she claimed while simultaneously initiating the sexting herself... No more applying logic with this one. Disagree. It is possible to demonstrate your sexuality without being loose and giving it up in the first two weeks of knowing a man. Maybe she is trying to indicate that she's not a total prude but doesn't want to just give it up. (Likely because she senses what a player the OP is and knows if they have sex it won't go anywhere.)
Hello_is_it_me Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 Casually dating is not the same as sleeping with multiple women at the same time and expecting another one to join your harem. Further, your whole attitude toward women sucks. Casual dating could mean sleeping with multiple women or just sleeping with one.
Imajerk17 Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 (edited) I love it when people come on here and talk about how they got so many options, and then they go write a long long thread about a prospect whom supposedly they're just not into. Yeah right! OP did you write this thread for advice, or to brag to us what a player you are? You and the subject of your thread just aren't compatible. Seems obvious to me from the beginning so I'm not seeing your need to write a thread about it though.... Edited April 11, 2014 by Imajerk17
Hello_is_it_me Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 In defense of the OP, I don't get the player vibe. And I don't get what's wrong with dating multiple ppl. His writing style might be a little.. straightforward lol.. but he's being honest. Doesn't seem like a bad guy to me. 1
Author ktya Posted April 11, 2014 Author Posted April 11, 2014 Im brutally honest. Maybe your definition of being a player simply means to be dating and/or sleeping with multiple people in the same timeframe, but my definition is someone who "plays" people to get what they want - ie. lie, cover up, misrepresent, etc. By my definition I am not a player. By yours perhaps. And that drivel about how if a girl puts out too soon the relationship will go nowhere is straight up garbage. In fact unless you're dealing with beta males its the complete opposite. I'll give a girl 3 dates and if it hasnt hit the sheets I'm out of there. Why? Because I'm a pig? No, quite contraire - because there are loads of women who will string you along, get you to wine, dine them, buy them gifts, and meanwhile they're banging some other dude who is too busy for them and you're Mr. Filler to occupy their time. And how is wanting to cook the girl dinner eschewing "sleazebag"? Because I'm not opening up my wallet and paying for someone else to do the cooking? Puhleeze
Succession Posted April 11, 2014 Posted April 11, 2014 So I meet this girl on OLD last Wednesday. This girl neglected to show her big ass in her OLD pictures. Shes not huge or grotesque but I'm into average to thin body types and this would definitely qualify at the low end of "A few extra pounds". Cut her loose or keep grinding on it or accept the friendzone? Were you being honest here, the above quote would have been your entire post. She's fat and has a terrible personality. Why would you chase her instead of turning to better options? There are three possibilities here: 1. You don't have other options, and pursuing her out of desperation. 2. You are pursuing her just because she's making you work for it. 3. You're falling for her, but your pride is injured. Let's rule out the first one because lying on a messageboard is just weird. It's hard to tell whether the second or the third is more likely. If it's the third, I suspect you won't be inclined to admit it. My advice is to keep grinding until you get the sex. Then your own actions will inform you further; if you lose all interest, it was the chase thing, but if you keep seeing her, you're in love.
Author ktya Posted April 11, 2014 Author Posted April 11, 2014 Were you being honest here, the above quote would have been your entire post. She's fat and has a terrible personality. Why would you chase her instead of turning to better options? She is a blast to talk to and talks on the phone like a dirty whore. Thought it might be worth it to keep grinding because while she waves "monogamy or bust" in my face the audiotape her landlord has of her in the noise complaint shows she can be convinced to do otherwise. Its moot now, I deleted her number.
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